Ep. 101: "I'll Never Forgive Him": Why I Changed My Mind

"I will never forgive my parents." That's what Sandi said to the woman who first told her she needed to. It took twenty years to learn that almost everything she'd been taught about forgiveness was wrong.In this episode, Sandi Derby unpacks what forgiveness actually means for anyone carrying deep wounds — abuse, betrayal, family pain, religious harm. Forgiveness is not letting someone off the hook. It's not forgetting. It's not reconciliation. And it should never be weaponized against a victim. It's the release of a debt too heavy to carry — and it's the doorway to real healing and freedom.Sandi also shares a deeper teaching on the difference between the sin nature and the flesh, and why understanding it is key to the journey of sanctification and inner healing.Rooted in the message of her book Living Born Again: salvation is the beginning of healing, not the end.If this episode helped you, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts — it takes two minutes and helps this podcast reach people who need it.Topics: forgiveness, grief, healing, trauma, abuse recovery, inner healing, deliverance, sanctification, Christian healing, emotional health, faith, restoration.