Ep 108: 11 Years of Silence: Why "Time Heals" is a lie with guest Shruti Trivedi

Before I dive in: FREE MASTERCLASS - October 22nd LOSS TO PURPOSE: Using Your Experience as Your Expertise If you're listening to this and you've ever thought "I want to support bereaved mothers but I don't know how to turn this calling into something real"—keep reading. I'm hosting a FREE masterclass on October 22 where I'm pulling back the curtain on how to go from "maybe one day" to "I'm doing this professionally now." It's called Loss to Purpose, and in 90 minutes I'm showing you: → The exact framework I use (and teach worldwide) to support pregnancy loss → Why you don't need to be "healed" or "perfect" to start → How to design YOUR unique offering while you learn (not 6 months after you finish) This isn't offered in any other pregnancy loss certification. Grab your free seat:  https://www.sharnasouthan.com/loss-to-purpose-masterclass    In this deeply moving episode, Sharna sits down with Shruti Trivedi, ICF-ACC certified life coach and founder of Tulsi Heals Life Coaching, to discuss her journey through five pregnancies, three losses, and the 11-year path to finally addressing her grief. Shruti shares the raw reality of her experiences—from terminating a pregnancy at nine weeks on New Year's Eve 2011 to delivering her identical twin boys at 23 weeks on her daughter's birthday after a rollercoaster journey through twin-to-twin transfusion syndrome. Most powerfully, she opens up about the years spent avoiding her grief, the panic attacks that kept resurfacing, and the transformative decision to finally seek therapy. In This Episode, We Discuss: The reality of pregnancy loss at different stages and how the body responds Why "time heals" is only partially true—you must actively participate in your healing Breaking through the stigma around mental health and therapy The harmful phrases grieving mothers hear ("you can try again," "at least you have other children") Why pregnancy losses often aren't recognized as "real" losses—and why that's so damaging The importance of being vulnerable in front of your children How seeking therapy isn't weakness—it's strength Treating mental health with the same importance as physical health The concept of "mental cleansing" as essential as brushing your teeth Key Takeaways: "Self-care isn't being selfish" - Shruti's tagline reminds us that taking care of ourselves isn't just okay, it's necessary for our healing and our ability to show up for others. Hidden stories are everywhere - Even people you've known for 10+ years may be carrying their own pregnancy loss stories in silence. Validation is powerful - Sometimes the most important thing therapy provides is simply witnessing your experience and confirming: "Yes, this is trauma. Yes, this needs to be addressed. Yes, your feelings are valid." The importance of seeking professional therapy vs. relying solely on family/friends Understanding that physical and mental health are interconnected—not separate entities Finding a therapist: It's okay to try different therapists until you find the right fit Connect with Shruti: Shruti works with working mothers and professionals to release guilt, prioritize self-care, and embrace mental wellbeing with compassion and courage. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tulsiheals_life_coaching/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tulsihealslifecoaching LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/shruti-trivedi-pmp-acc-8793671a Substack: https://tulsihealslifecoaching.substack.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCEuJzTER4Lz2u42KQIg2X9w  Book a complimentary session through the links in her social media bios About Tulsi Heals: The name honours Shruti's twin boys, with the logo's two leaves representing them. Tulsi is a holy Indian basil plant in Hindu culture, making this work deeply meaningful and connected to her journey.   Connect with Sharna: Join my Newsletter: HERE Apply for the Certification: HERE IG: Biz Mentorship: @instituteofhealing_pl IG: Podcast: @pregnancyloss_podcast  IG: Loss Support & Certifications: @insitituteofhealing.losssupport LinkedIn: @sharnasouthan   Leave a Review If this episode resonated with you, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts. Your reviews help other women find these conversations and realize they're not alone in their journey. Remember: You don't have to heal alone. Your grief is valid, your babies mattered, and seeking support is a sign of strength, not weakness. Trigger Warning: This episode contains detailed discussions of pregnancy loss, miscarriage, and stillbirth.