Ep. 108 Anja Vasquez: Relationship Coach, Motherhood and Aerial Yoga!

Join Paulette and Anja for this candid conversation that digs deep into how relationships can thrive even in the most difficult of times.  Anja is a mother of 2, in an intercultural relationship empowering other hardworking mothers (as a relationship coach) to live a happier and more fulfilling life, full of passion love and understanding- balancing energy, work & family by discovering their inner goddess. Here is a little of her story!  I got married when I was only 23 years old. I did not belong to a certain culture or cult that obligated me to do that so early or anything nearly close to that, I was just a person who LOVED TO LOVE and always LOVED TOO MUCH. So when I fell in love with my, now ex-husband, it didn’t take us long to get married. Neither did it take us long to get divorced :), but I have to say all these things we all so often call mistakes and wrongs, shaped me into the person I am today. Would not change a thing about my past. Right after the first year of studying Chinese studies at my local university, I decided to move FAR AWAY FROM SLOVENIA, and try out China. I went there with a one-way plane ticket, and that definitely was a ride of my life. Not the plane ride of course. I ended up living there for over 3 years, where of course, I met my ex-husband and the stories I have to tell you about that period of my life – not enough time in this post … But imagine the freedom; alone on the other side of the world, studying, working and mainly partying. I tested my skills and morals, fell many times, learned a lot about myself – especially about my stubbornness … ending up in the 4-year long relationship, I knew from the start was doomed, but being stubborn as I am, and mainly wanting to show the world how strong I am, lost 4 years of my life on a most devastating, self-destructive way I couldn’t get myself out of, until … It was with a help of newly made friends that I finally found the RIGHT STRENGTH and started saying NO to the wrong things. After a year of a sad and unhappy marriage, I decided to get divorced. OMG, that felt good! People around me freaked out completely, as I was going mad, but nobody stopped and asked me to explain the sudden change of heart. It did not mean, I did not love him, OH LORD I DID – but I just knew this love will take me to the grave unless I CHANGE. At 24, divorced. Only a kid was missing and that would have really been an upsetting story. But thanks to God, I was still being protected a bit, not to screw myself up completely. Nevertheless, who would love a 24-year-old girl with an ex-husband in her hands already?! Well, that was just one of the fears going through my mind at that time – but here I am, with the BEST HUBBY I could have imagined, who of course IS my best friend, with our newly born son KIAN, happily living in the CARIBBEAN. I am here to tell you YOU CAN HAVE IT ALL. It won’t be easy, it won’t be fast, but it’s possible. Step by step. Curious about how to achieve the desired things? My IG & CH handle: justahappymum Paulette Rigo CDC, CDS Consultant/Coach Author Speaker Podcast Host 1:1 Retreats Find out more about Paulette at www.betterdivorceacademy.com www.bettercareerproject.com www.betterdivorceblueprint.com www.betterdivorcesummit.com