EP 11: Trusting Yourself Again, Healing Subtle Trauma & Breaking Hidden People-Pleasing Patterns with Lani Faye

What if nothing "big" happened to you, yet you still feel disconnected from yourself?In this episode of Emerge, I sit down with my friend Lani for one of the most honest conversations we've had. No perfectly polished healing story. No tidy before and after. Just two friends being really, really real with each other about what healing from childhood trauma actually looks like in everyday life.We get into the quiet patterns that shape who we become, the subtle trauma that often goes unseen and unnamed, and what it actually takes to feel safe in your own body again. The kind of stuff that's hard to name but instantly recognisable when someone finally says it out loud.Lani shares her journey from chronic hypervigilance, hidden people-pleasing and emotional self-abandonment into a more grounded relationship with herself through breathwork, somatic awareness and Compassionate Inquiry. And along the way we talk about why intellectual understanding alone will never be enough when it comes to nervous system healing, how resentment quietly builds when we keep abandoning our own needs, and what sustainable healing actually looks like beyond the surface-level self-help stuff.This is a conversation about the messy middle, the small daily moments where real transformation actually happens, and how doing inner work alongside motherhood brings its own very particular kind of challenges.Oh, and roller coasters as spiritual practice. Yes, really. You'll have to listen for that one.⁠DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE 16-MINUTE GUIDED BREATHWORK AUDIO HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Where to Find Lani Faye :Instagram: @⁠omybreathConnect with Fini:Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thebreathway ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠& ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@emerge.podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠thebreathway.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠