Ep. 110 Ego States and Setting Boundaries in Family Systems with Andrea Arlington

Today I am sitting down with my Mom, Andrea Arlington. Andrea's journey led her through decades of living with loved ones who suffered with addictive patterns from heroin and alcohol to sex and other substance use disorders, she also suffered with multiple forms of both addictive and co-addictive patterns herself.   When her 3rd marriage failed, she took a hard look at her life, came to understand she would never find inner peace and happiness unless she took a deep dive into her own recovery. She became educated, mentored and coached by the best of the best in the mental health, relationship, recovery and treatment world. She learned proven tools and strategies, acquired numerous certifications, in communication, complimentary masculine/feminine relationship strategies, in the recovery and treatment field and as a licensed minister. Now Andrea uses her training and experiences with it all, to create a very fulfilling career as a family recovery and relationship coach for parents, couples and families. (Bio via andreaarlington.com)   We dive into the following topics… - How the boundaries I set with my Mom changed our relationship for the better - Why we use an approach of connection not control - Family systems and how ego states can impact these relationships - How to communicate and set boundaries so you can live your best life! - How unmet needs can fuel unhealthy behaviors and relationships - Why people become narcissistic and how parenting impacts this - The 4-types of child archetypes and how these present in adults - and so much more!       This episode is brought to you by Organifi. To purchase high-quality, plant-based nutrition, head to organifi.com/reality for 15% off any item in store!   This episode is brought to you by Athletic Greens. Visit athleticgreens.com/reality to get a FREE year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs!   This episode is brought to you by minted. Get 20% off your first order of unique save the dates and invitations by going to minted.com/reality!   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.alorecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.