Ep 115: Understanding Generational Trauma and Its Role in Abusive Relationships

Why did I end up in an abusive relationship?There is no one reason or answer to this question with the exception of…your partner chose to abuse you.And I know that this answer does not satisfy anyone.  So we are going to look at one of the factors that make women more susceptible to being targeted by an abusive person and why they are more likely to stay in an abusive relationship. We are doing a deep dive into generational trauma.Generational trauma is when trauma is passed down through generations through a combination of psychological, behavioral, and biological mechanisms or pathways. I touch on each of these pathways and the impacts that they have on you and your family.Breaking the cycle of generational trauma and abuse in a family system is extremely difficult work and starting with a trained mental health professional is the first step to healing yourself so that you can break this cycle for your family. Some of the work you may do during this process are:Understanding where it comes from and how your family has contributed to your trauma is not an excuse, but an explanationUnderstanding your role in the family dynamic and what your family might do to keep you in the role and why? Plate and marble exampleHelp you identify where you need to set boundariesAllowing you a place to examine your values and set plans for how to live with those at the forefront Allowing you to imagine a life that looks differentGrieving the loss of … innocence or your childhoodOffering yourself forgivenessFinding inspirational stories of success of breaking the cycleCreating your safe inner circle of support with healthy peopleOne of the most positive impacts of doing all of this work is that you get to teach your children all of the things you are learning!!! Through modeling and conversation, which will impact generations to come.Show Resources: Ep 105: Trauma Therapy Options for Abuse Survivors and their Children Ep 50: How Narcissistic Abuse Leads to Moral Injury Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/Wondering where to start? Check out our top free resources - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/resources.htmlIf you're interested in guesting on the show, please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest