Ep 116. ADHD & Shame: Why Shame Stops You & What to Do About It

✉️JOIN MAILING LIST👥ABOUT GROUP COACHING👤ABOUT 1:1 COACHING 🎥YOUTUBEIn this episode, we explore how shame shows up with ADHD — and how it can interfere with progress, motivation, and confidence. Shame loves secrecy. It thrives when we judge ourselves, stop asking questions, and retreat into hiding.I break down:-How shame undermines problem-solving-Why curiosity is the antidote-Simple but powerful shifts: self-compassion, community, and open inquiry-Real examples of how to step back from shame and move forwardIf shame ever whispers that you're “lazy,” “flaky,” or “just not enough,” I want you to see it as a story — not a fact. There’s more space, more possibility than shame allows.Timestamps:0:00 Introduction: Why I talk about ADHD & shame0:45 Why people don’t usually come to coaching to work on shame1:10 How shame shuts down problem-solving2:05 Shame stories vs curiosity3:15 What it looks like when shame hijacks action4:00 Asking “how” instead of “why”5:10 What happens when you assume the story6:05 Brene Brown insight: shame needs secrecy6:45 The power of connection and authenticity7:20 Commonality: you’re not alone in this struggle8:00 What to do: self‑compassion, community, curiosity9:00 Closing and invitation