Ep. 117 How Your Attachment Style Impacts Sex and Orgasm with Bev Mitelman

Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/  Exploring Attachment Styles and Their Impact on Relationships and Sex with Bev MitelmanIn this episode of the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast, host Heather Shannon welcomes special guest Bev Mitelman, a certified attachment practitioner and founder of Securely Loved, to discuss the intriguing topic of sex and attachment styles. They delve into how different attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant—affect individuals' relationships and sexual experiences. Bev shares insights from her personal journey, explaining how attachment theory has profoundly impacted her own healing. Listeners will learn about the emotional patterns and core wounds associated with each attachment style, and how these influence behaviors in romantic and sexual contexts. The episode also highlights the benefits of moving toward a secure attachment and offers practical advice for those looking to improve their relational and sexual well-being.00:00 Introduction to Healing in Relationships00:18 Welcome to Ask a Sex Therapist00:47 Special Guest: Bev Mitelman01:04 Bev's Background and Journey02:41 Understanding Attachment Styles04:25 Personal Attachment Journey06:00 Healing and Awareness14:12 Defining Attachment Styles15:09 Secure vs. Insecure Attachment18:02 Anxious Attachment Explained25:51 Avoidant Attachment Explained32:30 Understanding the Shame Wound33:12 Core Wound of Feeling Unsafe34:13 Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Dynamics37:56 Fearful Avoidant Attachment Explained41:25 Attachment Styles and Sexual Behavior49:38 Impact of Attachment on Orgasms51:31 Avoidant Attachment and Sex55:58 Fearful Avoidant Sexual Patterns01:00:11 Resources and Final ThoughtsWORK WITH HEATHER:Apply for a free Intimacy Breakthrough Call to learn about Heather’s Pathway to Passion coaching method. https://heathershannon.co/new-clients/  LET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach  Heather’s Pathway to Passion- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/pathway Heather’s Courses- https://heather-shannon.mykajabi.com/storeHeather’s Amazon Storefront- https://www.amazon.com/shop/heathershannonlcpc Resources Mentioned:Come As You Are: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1982165316?linkCode=ssc&tag=onamzheat0ce5-20&creativeASIN=1982165316&asc_item-id=amzn1.ideas.29BK4OTJWL4UF&ref_=aip_sf_asn_list_ofs_mixed_d_qv_asin Attached: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1529032172?linkCode=ssc&tag=onamzheat0ce5-20&creativeASIN=1529032172&asc_item-id=amzn1.ideas.2P3GGSWKYMGRE&ref_=aip_sf_list_spv_ofs_mixed_d_asin Bev’s Website: https://securelyloved.com/Bev’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/securely_loved/ SIMILARLY AWESOME EPISODES:Liked the episode? Here’s a few more episodes of Ask A Sex Therapist that you'll enjoy:Ep. 109 Vaginal Gymnastics 101: Increase Your Libido and Pleasure with Bel DiLorenzo- https://youtu.be/3ebUCD63GMM?si=2BnuBIrT4YN0tE_sEp. 107 Revive Her Drive: Rekindling Desire, Libido, and Orgasm with @SusanBratton- https://youtu.be/LkPePH3xHTM?si=-fKk9zGvmPfuPan9 RATE & REVIEW US!Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here. https://podfollow.com/AskASexTherapist This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp