EP 12: I Didn't Realize How Numb I Had Become (Have you become so good at avoiding pain that you've stopped feeling pleasure too? )

🎙️ Episode SummaryIn this episode, Shezza explores the often-overlooked connection between numbness, pleasure, and emotional healing. Drawing from her own experience of losing sensation and pleasure following a significant trauma, she explains how numbness is not simply the absence of feeling, but a protective response from the nervous system when emotions become overwhelming.Shezza reveals how many people unconsciously numb themselves through distractions, fantasy, food, technology, substances, or other coping mechanisms in an attempt to avoid pain. Yet in doing so, they often disconnect not only from discomfort but also from their capacity for pleasure, intimacy, and aliveness.Through the lens of Tantra, embodiment, and nervous system awareness, this episode offers a compassionate perspective on how healing begins—not by chasing more pleasure, but by learning to be present with what is already here. Shezza explains why true aliveness comes from expanding our capacity to feel the full range of human experience, including both pleasure and pain.✨ Learn what numbness really is and why the body creates it✨ Discover how avoiding pain can also disconnect you from pleasure✨ Understand the nervous system's role in intimacy, sensation, and aliveness✨ Explore how fantasy, distraction, and overstimulation can reinforce numbness✨ Learn why presence and compassion are essential for healing✨ Discover how Tantra supports the journey back into sensation, pleasure, and embodiment✨ About the HostShezza Sheryl is the creator of The Intimacy Oracle, helping people reconnect with their bodies, heal intimacy wounds, and cultivate deeper relationships with themselves and others. Through Tantra, somatic healing, embodiment practices, and transformational teachings, Shezza supports individuals in moving from numbness and disconnection into pleasure, presence, self-love, and soul-aligned living.🌹 About The Intimacy Oracle PodcastThe Intimacy Oracle is a space for conversations about intimacy, embodiment, healing, sexuality, relationships, spirituality, and personal transformation. Each episode is designed to support listeners in deepening self-awareness, healing limiting patterns, and experiencing more authentic connection, pleasure, and aliveness.💫 Divine and Alive TantraIf you find yourself feeling disconnected from your body, struggling to experience pleasure, or longing to feel more alive, Divine and Alive Tantra offers a pathway back to yourself.This transformational program combines Classical Tantra, Neo-Tantra, embodiment practices, and nervous system awareness to help you reconnect with sensation, release shame, and awaken the natural flow of pleasure and life force energy within your body.✨ Explore Divine and Alive Tantra:https://shezzasheryl.love/divine-and-alive-tantra🔗 Connect With Shezza👉 YouTube, Spotify, Apple Podcasts✨ Follow on:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shezzasheryl/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/shezza.waltersSubstack: https://substack.com/@intimacyoracleWebsite: https://shezzasheryl.love/home✨ Follow for updates and new episodes✨ Join our Facebook Group for deeper conversations and weekly insights✨ Subscribe on Substack for weekly insights, oracle messages, and intimacy teachings❤️ Enjoyed This Episode?💛 Share this with someone ready to reconnect with their body, reclaim their aliveness, and experience deeper intimacy.Your support helps more people discover that healing isn't about avoiding pain—it's about becoming fully alive to the entire human experience.