EP 12: Why You're So Scared of Disappointing People (And How to Stop)

Have you ever sent a message cancelling plans and then spent the next hour obsessing over whether the other person was annoyed with you? Even when they hadn't even replied yet?Yeah. Same.In this solo episode, I'm getting into something that came up for me recently... that very real, very familiar anxiety around letting people down. The fear of disappointing someone. The over-explaining, the over-apologising, the saying yes when every part of you is screaming no.If any of that sounds like you, this one's for you.What We Cover in This Episode:Why we're wired to fear disapproval and why it's actually got nothing to do with being "too sensitive"The childhood roots of people-pleasing and why this one might make a few things click into place for youHow this pattern shows up in adult life and why some of these signs are more obvious than othersWhy people-pleasing might actually be a form of dishonesty (okay, hear me out on this one)Why managing everyone else's emotions isn't as kind as it seems and the reframe that genuinely shifted something for meA simple nervous system exercise you can do in the moment because knowing this stuff in your head is one thing, but we need to bring the body along tooThree reflection questions to sit with and they're gentle, but don't be surprised if they bring up a lotConnect with Fini:Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thebreathway ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠& ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@emerge.podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠thebreathway.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠