Ep 1272 | Your Self-Care Is Making You Weak: Therapist Drops Hard Truths | RaQuel Hopkins episode artwork

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Ep 1272 | Your Self-Care Is Making You Weak: Therapist Drops Hard Truths | RaQuel Hopkins

from Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey · host Blaze Podcast Network

Allie and licensed therapist RaQuel Hopkins dismantle today’s feel-good therapy culture. “Protect your peace” has produced fragile adults. RaQuel calls for optimization, not coddling. Tough love builds capacity; toxic empathy breeds victims. Reject self-obsession; embrace personal responsibility. Tune in for biblical clarity on emotions, resilience, and why your pain isn’t special — but God’s grace is. Buy Allie's book "Toxic Empathy: How Progressives Exploit Christian Compassion": ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.toxicempathy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ --- Timecodes: (00:00) Intro (03:30) Optimization (11:50) Defining "Self-Care" (14:05) Toxic Empathy (17:25) Emotionally Rescuing Someone (28:00) Defining "Capacity" (34:50) Mental Illnesses (39:30) Defining "Burn Out" (42:00) Finding Fulfillment (50:50) God Increases Your Capacity --- Today's Sponsors: Good Ranchers — Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠goodranchers.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and subscribe to any box, but preferably the Allie Beth Stuckey Box. And when you order by December 1 and use code ALLIE, you’ll get an extra $100 off your first three orders.  EveryLife — Go to ⁠everylife.com⁠ to learn about the first and only pro-life diaper company. And use promo code ALLIE10 to get 10% off your first order today.  We Heart Nutrition — Go to ⁠weheartnutrition.com⁠ to learn how their products always use the most bioavailable, research-backed forms while also prioritizing ingredients from nature, from the world God created. Use the code ALLIE for 20% off! Crowd Health — Visit ⁠joincrowdhealth.com⁠ and get started today for $99 for your first three months, using code ALLIE.  Constitution Wealth — Go to ⁠constitutionwealth.com/allie⁠ to schedule a free consultation. Whether you're concerned about investing, want to avoid companies that don't align with your principles, or simply want more control over where your money goes, this team can help.  --- Episodes you might like: Ep 611 | How Woke Ideology Has Ruined Therapy | Guest: Dr. Sally Satel ⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-611-how-woke-ideology-has-ruined-therapy-guest-dr/id1359249098?i=1000559621694⁠⁠ Ep 963 | The Dangers of Gentle Parenting, SEL & Empathy | Guest: Abigail Shrier ⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-963-the-dangers-of-gentle-parenting-sel-empathy/id1359249098?i=1000648254377⁠⁠ Ep 1261 | Lies Your Therapist Tells You | Greg Gifford ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/relatable-with-allie-beth-stuckey/id1359249098?i=1000734470986⁠ --- Buy Allie's book "You're Not Enough (& That's Okay): Escaping the Toxic Culture of Self-Love": ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.alliebethstuckey.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Relatable merchandise: Use promo code ALLIE10 for a discount: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://shop.blazemedia.com/collections/allie-stuckey⁠⁠⁠

Allie and licensed therapist RaQuel Hopkins dismantle today’s feel-good therapy culture. “Protect your peace” has produced fragile adults. RaQuel calls for optimization, not coddling. Tough love builds capacity; toxic empathy breeds victims. Reject self-obsession; embrace personal responsibility. Tune in for biblical clarity on emotions, resilience, and why your pain isn’t special — but God’s grace is. Buy Allie's book "Toxic Empathy: How Progressives Exploit Christian Compassion": ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.toxicempathy.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ --- Timecodes: (00:00) Intro (03:30) Optimization (11:50) Defining "Self-Care" (14:05) Toxic Empathy (17:25) Emotionally Rescuing Someone (28:00) Defining "Capacity" (34:50) Mental Illnesses (39:30) Defining "Burn Out" (42:00) Finding Fulfillment (50:50) God Increases Your Capacity --- Today's Sponsors: Good Ranchers — Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠goodranchers.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and subscribe to any box, but preferably the Allie Beth Stuckey Box. And when you order by December 1 and use code ALLIE, you’ll get an extra $100 off your first three orders.  EveryLife — Go to ⁠everylife.com⁠ to learn about the first and only pro-life diaper company. And use promo code ALLIE10 to get 10% off your first order today.  We Heart Nutrition — Go to ⁠weheartnutrition.com⁠ to learn how their products always use the most bioavailable, research-backed forms while also prioritizing ingredients from nature, from the world God created. Use the code ALLIE for 20% off! Crowd Health — Visit ⁠joincrowdhealth.com⁠ and get started today for $99 for your first three months, using code ALLIE.  Constitution Wealth — Go to ⁠constitutionwealth.com/allie⁠ to schedule a free consultation. Whether you're concerned about investing, want to avoid companies that don't align with your principles, or simply want more control over where your money goes, this team can help.  --- Episodes you might like: Ep 611 | How Woke Ideology Has Ruined Therapy | Guest: Dr. Sally Satel ⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-611-how-woke-ideology-has-ruined-therapy-guest-dr/id1359249098?i=1000559621694⁠⁠ Ep 963 | The Dangers of Gentle Parenting, SEL & Empathy | Guest: Abigail Shrier ⁠⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-963-the-dangers-of-gentle-parenting-sel-empathy/id1359249098?i=1000648254377⁠⁠ Ep 1261 | Lies Your Therapist Tells You | Greg Gifford ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/relatable-with-allie-beth-stuckey/id1359249098?i=1000734470986⁠ --- Buy Allie's book "You're Not Enough (& That's Okay): Escaping the Toxic Culture of Self-Love": ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.alliebethstuckey.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Relatable merchandise: Use promo code ALLIE10 for a discount: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://shop.blazemedia.com/collections/allie-stuckey⁠⁠⁠

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