Ep. 13: Grieving Through Mother's Day

Tips for grieving through Mother's Day Whether you want to acknowledge the day or want to ignore it, know that the lead up, for many people, is the worst part. It can help to make a plan for the days leading up to Mother's Day. If you are supporting a grieving child, talk with them and their teacher ahead of time about possible activities at school. Work with the teacher and the child to come up with alternatives and options.  Let children know they can still celebrate Mother's Day - and that it's okay if they don't want to. Don't force children to pick another adult to honor, unless it's something they want to do.  Know that there will be an inundation of advertisements in many places. If needed, come up with some strategies to navigate shopping and social media.  Consider a social media fast for the day - or - plan what you want to post. Maybe choose a favorite picture and think ahead about what you want to write.  Identify other women in your life you would like to celebrate- and - it's okay if you don't want to. Don't pressure yourself to put someone in that role if it feels inconsiderate, impossible, or dishonoring of your mom.  Plan something for yourself - massage, hike, brunch with friends, etc. Decide what environment you want to be in, knowing that you are likely to run into moms and families. Get together with or reach out to others who are grieving the loss of their mom.  Focus on a category - say food, movies, activities, color, or music - choose a few from one or all the categories that your mom loved. Plan part or all of the day to do something with those elements. Maybe it's eating a favorite meal while watching a loved movie and wearing their favorite color. This is a great one to include children.  Volunteer - doing for others can often take us out of our own experience and create a sense of contribution, belonging, and connection.