Ep 13 - “I have no interest in sex whatsoever” Sexuality and Desire Explored with Kate Moyle

Managing menopause after a cancer diagnosis brings with it a heap of physical and psychological symptoms, many of which can be discussed much more openly than others. Our sexual desires, loss of libido, difficulty becoming aroused, painful sex and so much more are often not spoken about. What is normal and what can I do if I don’t like that ‘new normal’? In this episode, we will focus less on all the things we can do to support our vaginal health, but we will explore sexual health and what desire means to us. What does sexuality mean to you? And how we can all bring a little more sex into our lives, without actually having any!My guest for this episode is a registered Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist and a Certified Psycho-Sexologist. Kate specialises in working with those that are struggling with difficulties with their sex lives and sexuality, including many in their twenties and thirties. Kate recognises that our understanding of our sexuality and sexual health is personal to each of us. Helping us to open our view of what sexuality and desire are for us. Ultimately her aim is to help people get to a place of sexual health, happiness and wellbeing. Here are the highlights:(03:33) What is a psycho-sexologist?(06:39) We don’t have the education to understand what is going on(12:31) Expectations set us up to be disappointed(19:22) Kate’s definition of sex(24:54) How do I get my desire back?(31:44) What do you miss when you are not having sex?(40:01) It’s more normal not to talk about this stuff than it is to talk about itConnect with Kate:The Sexual Wellness Sessions Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-sexual-wellness-sessions/id1527311547Instagram: @katemoyletherapyAbout Dani:The Menopause and Cancer Podcast is hosted by Dani Binnington, menopause guide, patients advocate for people in menopause after a cancer diagnosis, and founder of the online platform Healthy Whole Me. There is lots of information out there about the menopause but hardly any if you have had a cancer diagnosis as well. Many people say to me they have no idea what their options are, who to ask for help, and that they feel really isolated in their experiences. I started this podcast because there was nothing out there when I was thrown into surgical menopause at the age of 39, which followed on from my cancer diagnosis aged 33.Through the episodes, I want to create more awareness, share information from our fabulous guest experts, doctors and other specialists in the cancer and menopause field. And of course, I will share stories from the people in our community.So that together we can work towards a better menopause experience. For all of us.More educated, better informed and less alone. Connect with Dani:Instagram @healthywholeme  Facebook: @healthywholeme  Join Dani’s private Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/menopauseandcancerchathubFor oodles of inspiration, healthy recipes, yoga classes and all round positivity go to her website: https://www.healthywholeme.com/ Mentioned in this episode:Substack: https://danibinnington.substack.com/