Ep. 13: You’re Not Giving – You’re Trying To Be Chosen

You’re not giving.You’re trying to be chosen.People pleasing looks like kindness. It looks like generosity. It even feels like love. But underneath it?It’s often fear.Fear of rejection. Fear of not being enough. Fear of not being loved for who you really are.In this episode, we unpack the truth about people pleasing—what it actually is, where it comes from, and why it’s leaving you exhausted, disconnected, and constantly seeking validation.Because this isn’t about being a better person.It’s about being a more honest one.Inside this episode:The difference between true giving vs. trying to get something backWhy people pleasing is rooted in lack, not loveThe fears driving it (rejection, judgment, being misunderstood)How this behavior disconnects you from your authentic selfSimple tools to start shifting (awareness, journaling, breathwork)And as always, there’s a guided breathwork practice to help you regulate your nervous system and start doing the opposite.You don’t need to earn your worth.You just need to stop outsourcing it.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN EPISODEUse the companion breathworkJoin us on SubstackFollow us on Instagram This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theoppositeofstuck.substack.com/subscribe