The Opposite of Stuck

Most people think they’re stuck because of circumstances.But what if it’s something way closer… and way more powerful?In this episode, we break down how your everyday language—what you say out loud, what you think silently, and what you repeat unconsciously—is shaping your reality in real time.Not in a fluffy, “just think positive” way.In a real, grounded, uncomfortable truth kind of way.We’re talking about:* How “harmless” habits like venting, sarcasm, and labeling are quietly reinforcing your current reality* Why your words act like seeds—and how they determine what grows in your life* The connection between negative speech and feeling stuck, blocked, or disconnected from what you want* The role of awareness in actually interrupting patterns (instead of just understanding them)* How to start shifting your language without overwhelming yourselfBecause here’s the truth:You don’t need a whole new life to feel different.You need to start speaking into the one you’re already in… differently.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEAccess the companion breathworkRead The Four AgreementsSubscribe on SubstackFollow us on Instagram This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theoppositeofstuck.substack.com/subscribe

If you’ve ever thought “things would be better if they just changed…” — this episode is going to challenge everything you believe about that.In this conversation, we’re breaking down one of the most subtle (and socially accepted) ways we stay stuck: waiting on other people to show up differently so we can finally feel better, safer, or more seen.This episode was sparked by a real-life shift—one that proves what’s possible when you stop trying to control the external and start owning your internal world.We talk about:* Why trying to change other people keeps you in the same loop* The identity shift that gives you your power back* How your relationships are reflecting what’s happening inside of you* What it actually looks like to pause instead of react in real time* Why awareness alone isn’t enough (and what to do instead)This isn’t about blame.It’s about access.Because the moment you stop waiting on them…is the moment everything starts to move.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEAccess the companion breathwork HEREJoin us on SubstackFollow us on Instagram This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theoppositeofstuck.substack.com/subscribe

Everyone wants the result.The better life. The change. The win.But very few people are actually willing to become the person who can hold it.In this episode, we’re diving into the gap between wanting more… and preparing for more.Because it’s not the uncontrollable things in your life that are keeping you stuck—it’s how you’re responding to them.We talk about:why life feels so chaotic right now (and what it’s really showing you)the difference between wanting change and actually preparing for ithow your reactions are shaping your reality more than you realizethe “standards” you’re being asked to rise to (whether you see them or not)how to start showing up differently—without needing to be perfectThis isn’t about doing more.It’s about responding differently.Because the life you say you want?It’s on the other side of how you show up when things don’t go your way.If you’re feeling in it right now—this episode will help you see why… and what to do with it.✨ And if you’re ready to go deeper, the companion breathwork will support you in shifting your reactions in real time—so you can start becoming the version of you that’s actually prepared to win.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEUse the companion breathworkJoin us on SubstackFollow us on Instagram This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theoppositeofstuck.substack.com/subscribe

You’ve done the journaling.The readings.The breathwork.The deep dives into yourself.So why do you still feel stuck?In this episode, we’re calling out the healing trap no one talks about—the subtle way personal growth can become a distraction from the very thing that actually creates change.Because healing isn’t about fixing yourself.And it’s not about doing more.It’s about what you do after the awareness.We’re sharing our own experiences of getting caught in the loop of “healing,” constantly searching for the next tool, the next answer… instead of actually living, choosing differently, and doing the thing that shifts everything.This is your reminder that:You don’t need another modality.You don’t need to fix yourself.And you’re not as stuck as you think.You just might be avoiding the part that actually changes your life.✨ In this episode, we dive into:How healing can become a safety blanketThe difference between awareness and real changeWhy you keep repeating the same patternsWhat healing actually means (and what it doesn’t)The simple shift that moves everything forwardIf you’ve been doing “all the work” but nothing feels different… this one will land.🎧 Pair this episode with our companion breathwork to help you reconnect to yourself, release what’s not yours to carry, and create space to finally do things differently.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEUse the companion breathworkJoin us on SubstackFollow us on Instagram This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theoppositeofstuck.substack.com/subscribe

You’re not giving.You’re trying to be chosen.People pleasing looks like kindness. It looks like generosity. It even feels like love. But underneath it?It’s often fear.Fear of rejection. Fear of not being enough. Fear of not being loved for who you really are.In this episode, we unpack the truth about people pleasing—what it actually is, where it comes from, and why it’s leaving you exhausted, disconnected, and constantly seeking validation.Because this isn’t about being a better person.It’s about being a more honest one.Inside this episode:The difference between true giving vs. trying to get something backWhy people pleasing is rooted in lack, not loveThe fears driving it (rejection, judgment, being misunderstood)How this behavior disconnects you from your authentic selfSimple tools to start shifting (awareness, journaling, breathwork)And as always, there’s a guided breathwork practice to help you regulate your nervous system and start doing the opposite.You don’t need to earn your worth.You just need to stop outsourcing it.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN EPISODEUse the companion breathworkJoin us on SubstackFollow us on Instagram This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theoppositeofstuck.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, we’re talking about embodiment, transforming negativity, and what it actually looks like to become more of yourself in real life — not just in theory.Inspired by our experience with The Artist’s Way and the practice of morning pages, we unpack how asking to be shown your negativity can completely shift the way you move through daily triggers, frustration, overwhelm, and reactive behavior.This conversation goes deep into what negativity really means, why your triggers are not random, how breathwork helps create the pause you need to choose differently, and why real change doesn’t happen by waiting for other people to change — it happens when you do.We also talk about eclipse season, the courage it takes to stop blaming your circumstances, and the powerful truth that what feels chaotic may actually be the exact opportunity your soul has been asking for.If life has felt heavy, triggering, or intense lately, this episode is a reminder that you are not broken, you are being invited into transformation.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEListen to the companion breathworkJoin us on SubstackRead ⁠The Artist's WayFollow us on Instagram This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theoppositeofstuck.substack.com/subscribe

In Part 2 of our grief conversation, we move beyond the initial pain of loss and into something deeper—the identity we create around it, and the possibility that nothing is ever truly gone.We talk about how easy it is to become “the person who lost someone,” and how that identity can quietly keep us stuck. We explore the idea that grief isn’t just something we feel—it can become who we believe we are.This episode opens up a different perspective.What if loss isn’t as final as we’ve been taught?What if the connection never actually ends—only changes form?And who are you, really, without the story of what you’ve lost?We share our own experiences of staying connected to the people we love in new ways, the signs and moments that remind us they’re still with us, and how choosing joy might be the most powerful way to honour them.This isn’t about bypassing grief.It’s about expanding it—so it no longer holds you back from fully living.If you’ve ever felt stuck in your grief, or unsure how to move forward without feeling like you’re leaving them behind… this conversation is for you.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEThis episode is an invitation to explore grief in a new way—one that opens you up to connection, rather than keeping you stuck in loss. These are the tools and perspectives that have genuinely supported us:Listen to the companion breathworkLearn more about Kabbalah - especially around the concept of the illusion of loss and living with certainty beyond what you can see. This perspective has been deeply transformative in how we understand death and connection.Learn more about The Gene Keys Venus Sequence: A heart-opening journey into love, connection, and emotional healing. This was part of a profound experience that deepened our sense of connection beyond loss.If this episode resonated, don’t overwhelm yourself—just begin here:Who am I without this identity?What would it look like to connect with them in a new way?And most importantly, stay open. What you’re looking for… you might start to find.Join us on ⁠Substack⁠ for deeper conversation & more resourcesFollow us on ⁠Instagram⁠ This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theoppositeofstuck.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, we open a conversation most of us were never taught how to have.Grief is something every single one of us will experience, yet so many of us move through it feeling alone, stuck, or unsure of how to process what we’re feeling. We share our own personal experiences of losing a parent at a young age, and the ways grief showed up for us—then and now.We talk about how grief can quietly keep you stuck, especially when emotions are suppressed or when you’re holding onto beliefs like “this shouldn’t have happened.” And we explore a different way of moving through it—one that allows for expression, openness, and even connection beyond the physical.This isn’t about “getting over it.” It’s about learning how to hold the pain, stay open, and continue living your life at the same time.If you’ve ever felt lost in your grief, or unsure of how to move forward, this conversation is for you.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEListen to the companion breathworkJoin us on SubstackFollow us on Instagram This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theoppositeofstuck.substack.com/subscribe

Have you ever thought you finally moved past a pattern… only to watch it show up again in a completely new situation?In this episode of The Opposite of Stuck, Sarah and Vicky explore the surprising moments when old patterns reappear at new levels of growth. What can feel like failure is often actually evidence that you’ve grown — and that the same lesson is returning in new packaging.Vicky shares a recent experience where she realized she was unconsciously seeking external validation. Together they unpack how easy it is to look outside ourselves for certainty, reassurance, or answers — and why that energy almost always leaves us feeling stuck.Through their conversation, they explore:• Why growth often feels like “new level, new devil”• How fear and ego disguise themselves as logical decisions• The difference between seeking answers from lack vs wholeness• Why awareness and community help reveal our blind spots• How breathwork helps bring you back into your body when your mind is spiralingMost importantly, Sarah and Vicky remind listeners that the goal isn’t to eliminate patterns forever. The real work is learning to recognize them faster, laugh about them sooner, and choose differently each time they appear.Growth doesn’t mean you stop encountering challenges — it means you start recognizing them sooner.And that’s where real freedom begins.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEListen to the companion breathwork HEREJoin us on Substack ⁠HERE⁠Follow us on Instagram ⁠HERE This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theoppositeofstuck.substack.com/subscribe

What if joy didn’t need to be earned, justified, or saved for special occasions?In this episode, we explore what it really means to be the cause of your joy — instead of waiting for circumstances, achievements, or other people to create it for you. We talk about the subtle ways we block joy in everyday life, how overthinking and “shoulds” keep us stuck, and why joy is reason enough to make a choice.You’ll hear simple, practical ways to start reconnecting with what lights you up — from creating a joy list to doing an energy audit and learning to trust your body’s signals again.We also dive into why joy can feel unfamiliar or even uncomfortable, and how breathwork helps you create the safety and space to let it in.This episode is your invitation to stop outsourcing your happiness and start leading yourself back to what feels alive.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEListen to the companion breathwork HEREJoin us on Substack HEREFind The Energy Audit HEREFollow us on Instagram HERE This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theoppositeofstuck.substack.com/subscribe

What if the reason you feel stuck isn’t because you need a better strategy — but because you’re following someone else’s?In this episode, we dive into authenticity, Human Design strategy and authority, and the subtle ways we get pulled off course when we start using someone else’s roadmap as our own. Using Taylor Swift’s Eras Tour as an example, we explore what it looks like to build success from alignment rather than imitation.You don’t need to know anything about Human Design to listen to this episode. This is about something deeper — learning to recognize when you’re forcing, copying, or overriding your own inner knowing… and how to return to what’s true for you.We talk about:Why copying success often leads to stucknessWhat authenticity actually feels like in the bodyHow your triggers can point you toward your own desiresWhy knowledge isn’t enough — embodiment is everythingPractical ways to experiment with your own inner guidanceIf you’ve been pushing, forcing, or trying to make something work the way someone else did… this is your invitation to pause, recalibrate, and do it your way.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEAccess Companion Breathwork HEREJoin us on SubstackFollow us on Instagram This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theoppositeofstuck.substack.com/subscribe

Starting something new sounds exciting — until resistance shows up.In this episode, we unpack why every new beginning brings discomfort, self-doubt, and the urge to quit — and why that doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong. Through real-life stories (from meditation habits to punch-needle art projects), we explore how resistance isn’t a stop sign, but a signal that something meaningful is unfolding.We talk about letting yourself be a beginner, releasing shame around being “bad” at something, and why gentleness, patience, and surrender open the door to clarity, creativity, and connection. If you’ve been trying to change a habit, start something new, or step outside your comfort zone — this episode will help you do it without forcing, self-criticism, or burnout.This is your permission to start messy, stay curious, and keep going.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEAccess Companion Breathwork HEREJoin us on SubstackFollow us on Instagram This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theoppositeofstuck.substack.com/subscribe

Every year, we tell ourselves the same story: New year, new me.And every year, most of us end up right back where we started.In this episode, Sarah and Vicky unpack why the idea of “new year, new you” actually keeps people stuck—and what real change actually requires. We talk about why growth is uncomfortable by design, how familiar pain keeps us trapped in old patterns, and why awareness without action isn’t enough.We explore:Why challenging years aren’t mistakes—but invitationsHow the nervous system resists change (even when you want it)Why you can’t think your way into a new lifeThe small, embodied actions that actually create momentumThis conversation is for anyone who wants something different—but feels frustrated that effort alone hasn’t been enough.Change doesn’t happen because the calendar turns. It happens when you start doing the opposite.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEAccess Companion Breathwork HEREJoin us on SubstackFollow us on Instagram This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theoppositeofstuck.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, we’re unpacking a sneaky pattern that keeps a lot of people spinning: the moment “commitment” starts to feel like pressure… and suddenly you’re trying, forcing, pushing—then wondering why you feel stuck.Vicky shares a real-time experience from a mastermind that brought up a deep internal trigger around the energy of commitment. What looked like “I should do more” was actually a signal that something was off. She voice-noted Sarah, and Sarah clocked the word underneath it all: trying. We talk about why “trying” often equals control, how ease doesn’t mean “easy,” and why getting out of your head and into your body is the fastest way back to clarity.We also break down why you’re not meant to do this alone. So much shifts when you say the thing out loud and let someone reflect it back—because that’s where your blind spots get exposed and the stuck feeling dissolves. We explore how triggers are breadcrumbs from the universe, why discomfort can actually be proof you’re growing, and how to open to possibility when your mind is convinced “it can’t be any other way.”Plus, we share a powerful mentor/student story that reframes procrastination and “laziness” as a signal of misalignment—not a character flaw—and we end with tangible ways to practice the Opposite of Stuck: notice the contraction, speak it, ask for strength to see differently, and trust the timing of your next aligned yes.Listen in, and don’t forget to check out the breathwork that goes with this episode to help anchor the shift even deeper.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEAccess Companion Breathwork HEREJoin us on SubstackFollow us on Instagram This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theoppositeofstuck.substack.com/subscribe

In PART 2, Vicky shares her first conscious “do the opposite” moment around one of her biggest lifelong patterns: scarcity and receiving.After choosing “receiving” as her word of the year, the universe started sending very specific curriculum—an unexpected loss of her dog, guilt around using her hard-earned 401(k) savings, and a dream opportunity to fly to London for a live event that lit her up… and also triggered every old money story she’d ever had.In this episode, Vicky walks us through:The moment she realized she was still acting from lack, even while building a life and business she lovedHow using her savings without shame became an act of self-trust, not irresponsibilityThe exact shift that helped her book the flight, book the hotel, and let the universe meet her on the other sideWhy “nothing changed and everything changed” once her perspective didWe also talk about what it really means to expand your vessel so you can hold more—more money, more joy, more opportunities—without waiting for external proof that you’re “allowed” to have it.This episode is paired with a guided breathwork session on receiving and expanding your capacity, designed to support your nervous system as you step out of restriction and into a new relationship with abundance.To listen to the companion breathwork, join us on Substack.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEAccess Companion Breathwork HEREJoin us on SubstackFollow us on Instagram This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theoppositeofstuck.substack.com/subscribe

In this first part of our two-part series, Sarah shares the story of the first time she consciously did the opposite of her lifelong pattern — chasing external validation and saying yes to misaligned opportunities.Inside a “perfect on paper” business partnership, the universe started surfacing an old wound: needing bosses, titles, and “legitimate” companies to prove her worth. From late payments and overworking in past jobs to being asked for a resume and exhaustive CV for her breathwork work, the pattern was clear: approval first, self-trust second.In this episode, Sarah walks you through the moment she realized this was a test, the fear that came up when she chose to say no, and the freedom on the other side when she discovered she didn’t actually die, lose everything, or implode her life by honoring her truth.We also talk about:How to spot your own repeating patterns of stucknessWhy the things that frustrate you are actually cluesThe power of being witnessed in your “messy middle” instead of trying to fix it aloneThis episode is paired with a guided breathwork session on releasing external validation, created to support your nervous system as you choose the opposite in your own life.To listen to the companion breathwork, join us on Substack.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEAccess Companion Breathwork HEREJoin us on SubstackFollow us on ⁠Instagram This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theoppositeofstuck.substack.com/subscribe

Welcome to the very first episode of The Opposite of Stuck.In this intro conversation, Sarah and Vicky share how their friendship, breathwork practice, and years of deep spiritual conversations organically led to creating this podcast. You’ll hear the story of how a single intuitive download sparked the idea, why “doing the opposite” became their shared core philosophy, and how returning to the basics — breath, awareness, and intention — has transformed their lives.Together, they explore:What being stuck actually feels likeWhy our ego and nervous system cling to the familiarHow breathwork creates the safety to choose differentlyThe messy, human, beautiful reality of growthWhy community and honest reflection are essential on the pathThis episode sets the tone for everything to come: real conversations, real tools, real transformation.If you’re ready to interrupt the old pattern and choose the opposite of what keeps you stuck… you’re in the right place.RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEJoin us on SubstackFollow us on Instagram This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theoppositeofstuck.substack.com/subscribe