EP 130 – Stop Enabling, Start Healing: A New Blueprint for Family Recovery with Jeff Jones

To watch the video of this episode, please go to: https://youtu.be/Hhzqwx4KvO8   How can families break free from shame-based language and rigid black-and-white thinking? What does it look like to shift from reactive enabling to creating healthy, new communication habits? Can setting boundaries actually be the foundation for rebuilding lasting trust?   What if the key to overcoming addiction isn’t just treating the individual, but healing the entire family system? In this episode, Dr. Adriana Popescu is joined by Jeff Jones, an LPC, CACIII, and nutritional recovery coach who didn’t just study addiction; he lived it. Drawing from his personal experience in an addicted family system, Jeff introduces a revolutionary perspective through his book, Rethinking Addiction: The New Family Recovery Solution. Together, they discuss a three-phase blueprint designed to help families calm emotional reactions and rebuild trust through healthy, systemic change. This episode is a powerful invitation for families to reclaim their agency and transform the dynamic of recovery.   In this episode: The systemic shift: Why focusing on the family—not just the individual—is the missing link in mainstream recovery. Breaking the shame cycle: How to replace judgment-heavy, "black-and-white" thinking with a more nuanced, healthy perspective. The Three-Phase Blueprint: Navigating the journey from chaos to sustainable, healthy rhythms. Setting boundaries: Understanding how to set limits that protect your own well-being while supporting real change. Rebuilding trust: Practical steps to restore connection and integrity within the family unit.   Resources mentioned in this episode: Jeff’s website: thefamilyrecoverysolution.com Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thefamilyrecoverysolution Book: Rethinking Addiction: The New Family Recovery Solution: https://www.amazon.com/Re-thinking-Addiction-Family-Recovery-Solution-ebook/dp/B0GHYBWFMN   About Jeff: Jeff didn’t just study addiction; he lived it. Growing up in an addicted family system fueled a lifelong quest to answer two vital questions: How do people actually get better, and how can the family become a stronger part of the solution? Armed with a Master’s in counseling and a powerhouse of credentials—including LPC, CACIII, and Nutritional Recovery coaching—Jeff spent years in mainstream recovery seeing what worked and what was missing. In his new book, Rethinking Addiction: The New Family Recovery Solution, Jeff introduces a 3-phase blueprint designed to help families break free from shame-based language and rigid "black-and-white" thinking. He teaches and coaches families how to calm emotional reactions, set enforceable boundaries, and rebuild lasting trust through new, healthy rhythms. Jeff’s core premise is revolutionary: families have the power to change their end-of-communication patterns, so they enable a healthy new dynamic.    “Families have the power to change their communication patterns so they can enable a healthy new dynamic.” – Jeff   Would you like to continue this conversation and connect with other people who are interested in exploring these topics? Please join us on our Facebook group! (https://www.facebook.com/groups/kaleidoscopeofpossibilitiespodcast/)   About your host: Dr. Adriana Popescu is a clinical psychologist, addiction and trauma specialist, author, speaker and empowerment coach who is based in San Francisco, California and practices worldwide. She is the author of the book, What If You're Not As F***ed Up As You Think You Are? For more information on Dr. Adriana, her sessions and classes, please visit: https://adrianapopescu.org/ To find the book please visit: https://whatifyourenot.com/ To learn about her trauma treatment center Firebird Healing, please visit the website: https://www.firebird-healing.com/   You can also follow her on social media:  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrAdrianaPopescu/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dradrianapopescu/?hl=en LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adriana-popescu-ph-d-03793 Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCflL0zScRAZI3mEnzb6viVA TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dradrianapopescu? Medium: https://medium.com/@dradrianapopescu   Disclaimer: This podcast represents the opinions of Dr. Adriana Popescu and her guests. The content expressed therein should not be taken as psychological or medical advice. The content here is for informational or entertainment purposes only. Please consult your healthcare professional for any medical or treatment questions. This website or podcast is not to be used in any legal capacity whatsoever, including but not limited to establishing “standard of care” in any legal sense or as a basis for legal proceedings or expert witness testimony. Listening, reading, emailing, or interacting on social media with our content in no way establishes a client-therapist relationship.