Thanks for tuning in to the Real Women Chronicles podcast. I am your international certified life coach, T. Audra Taylor. The sole purpose of this podcast is to get you from where you are now to where you want to be.
Yes, it's time to break chains and to get unstuck. Thanks again for joining in. Let's begin. Hello and happy new year to each and every one of you guys.
We made it. We made it into 2022. I know 2021 was a crazy year for many of us, but guess what God seen us through is still a purpose on our lives. And that is why he allowed us to see a new year.
Y'all I just celebrated a birthday December 30th and all I could think about on my birthday was just how blessed I am just to be here. Like that's it. You know, I didn't care about doing anything with COVID and just getting out of the ICU. I definitely didn't want to expose my body to any of the heightened COVID cases and all the crime and all this new stuff that we got going on.
So I spent my birthday with my kids, something that I haven't done in probably some years just being able to spend that time with the kids because they are grown down. They have their own life going on, you know, they hang out for new years and things like that now at the ages that they are at. 19, well, my 19 year old is about to be 20 and then I have a 24 year old who will be a 25 in August. So as you guys can imagine, they have their own life going on, but it was just a blessing to have them during my birthday and just being able to celebrate my birthday with my kids and bringing a new year with my kids.
So that being said guys, God is good. We're here. We're here in 2022 and initially I wanted to talk about just letting go of those chains and the bondages that have been holding us down. But then today it was brought to my spirit, leeches.
And I don't know why, you know, this has been on my on my mental rolodex for days just thinking about leeches. And when I talk about leeches, I'm talking about people that you are interconnected with that are doing nothing but sucking the life out of you. They're sucking the blood. They are real life human leeches.
And listen, I'm not only talking about leeches that come along and ask you for money and material things. But leeches that come along and take spiritual things from you. Leeches that come along and take non-tangible things from you like your time, your dedication, your ability to heal people. And I want to talk about leeches because me being a certified life coach, I've learned with this calling, you will tend to attract people.
And this is not just a life coaching calling. These are people that have healing principles. If you have been that person that everybody goes to for advice, then I'm talking to you. Okay.
And I want to talk about you because there are people that will draw on you and take so much of your time, dedication and energy on building them up. And then when you need them, there are no way to be found. Or once they have drained everything that they want from you, there are no way to be found. And this is a topic that I want to talk about as we enter into the new year because I think it's a very important time at the beginning of the year to reevaluate friendships, to re-evaluate relationships.
And to ask yourself, do they serve a purpose? I have no need for purposeless relationships. Now I don't know about you, but I don't have a need for it. If I'm having to question the purpose of our relationship and our friendship, that's a problem for me because that's telling me that this relationship has not come to grow me.
So if that relationship is not there to grow you, then that means that that relationship non-times and attend is there to take from you. What are you giving to this relationship, this purposeless relationship that is draining you, right? Because a lot of people are wolves and sheep's clovings. Woves and sheep's clovings.
They come to you, they seem soft, they seem caring. And then you realize that underneath that facade, they're really wolves. They're really there to attack. They're really there to drain you.
I can attest to the fact that I spend a lot of time, not only coaching clients, but I spend a lot of time with putting into the well-being of friendships. And I often have to take a step back and say, you know what, have they done the same for me? And this is not about always expecting something back. Absolutely not.
This podcast is proof that I am here to motivate and I don't act for a dime. I just enjoy doing it. I want to see my men and women empowered. But at the same time, I need strength to do that.
And if I have a whole bunch of people that are around me just draining up free game and they're just draining up my energy and my time or your energy and your time. And then when it comes down to it, when you really need that power, you have none because you've given it away to these purposeless individuals and these purposeless relationships. You've set there and you've helped people overcome things. You've helped them overcome their low self-esteem, but you can't pick yourself up from feeling like you don't have the right shape or from feeling like you're not smart enough or pretty enough.
You can't even pick yourself up. No, why? Because you're so busy picking everybody else up. You're pouring into everybody else's cup.
And as a certified life coach, I can tell you that many people are born with these healing principles, but here's the thing, we have to learn how to balance it. You have to learn how to balance it because every relationship that comes into your life should serve a purpose. I truly don't believe that the relationships that you encounter should all be about them. Yes, we are here on a signed purpose, but through the operating of your purpose, you're also growing.
You're also learning things about you. You're learning your capabilities. You're learning your, the things that you're willing to deal with and the things that you won't. You're learning these things.
And I can tell you in my almost 40 years here in Earth, I can tell you that I've had a whole lot of relationships that serve a purpose, even if they ended up dark and nasty. I can look back and say that they serve the purpose. But listen, y'all, if you are having people in your circle and you're questioning what their purpose is, I encourage you to really go to God and really pray on that and start being willing to detach from people that don't serve a purpose in your life. If they're there, just to drain you.
If they are there, if they are there just to drain you for your healing principles and make themselves feel good. If that is all they're there for, and then when you need them, they're not there and when you, and when they get healed, they're inconsistent, they're not putting time into that friendship, I want you to reevaluate that friendship going forward. We're not doing leeches this year. We're not doing that.
We're not doing purposeless relationships. If there is no angle for this friendship, if there is no purpose for this friendship, then it is coming from some other entity that I refuse to entertain. Where we really have to at times evaluate that because you don't want to end up wasting time and energy and pouring into people that can't even do the same for you or aren't even around. Or pouring into people that constantly come into your life only to drain you, steal from you, steal your ideas and then walk away.
I don't know about y'all, but this year, no more allowing people to use you. No more allowing people to come into your life and really drain those healing principles that you have so much so that you can't even go to your family and motivate them because you've been pouring so much into the user's cup and the Legion's cup, the leeches cup. I'm sorry that you literally have nothing left to give. So guess what guys, I'm not sure who this message is for.
Maybe it's just for me and that's okay. I pray that this year God reveals the fake friends. I pray that this year God reveals those purposeless relationships in your life as He's been doing in mind and I pray that you have the strength to detach. Some of these relationships aren't going to be relationships that you just encountered a few months ago.
Some of these relationships may be relationships that you've held on to since grade school. But I truly pray that this year God gives you the strength because we are in the season of the unknown just again with me dealing with COVID and just seeing how quickly life can change overnight. I told you guys in the previous podcast, but I literally had plans that we can. I did not think I was going to be definitely ill.
I'll fit, wig and everything planned out. And life took another turn for some time afterwards. Tomorrow is not promised to each and every one of us. How do you want to spend your time and who do you want to invest your time in?
And sometimes you got to take everybody out. Maybe when you do your real value and you'll realize that it's nobody but you and God left. But trust the process and trust that He will replace that which you lost. If He is telling you to detach from certain friendships and relationships, that's what it is guys.
And you got to be willing and open to the shift because the shift is always going to be for your better. No more purposeless relationships, no more leeches, no more people that come to just use and abuse you and take, take, take, no more pouring into other people's cups to where you're empty. And they don't even have the common, the common decency. Can't talk today guys to pour into yours.
Okay. That's all I want to say for this week's podcast. Again, Happy New Year. If you are in need of life coaching, be sure to log on to my website, the RWC Podcast.com.
You can go ahead and click on the coach with me tab and reach out to me. I'll give you a free 30 minute girl talk or coaching session. So go ahead and log on to that website to book one. I also have the break up to break through interactive journal available on that website as well.
That being said, let's close out and pray your father. God, I just thank you for allowing us to come together yet again another week. Father God, I pray that you give us the spirit of discernment, Father God, help us to really, really discern the people who are for us and the people that are against us and the people who are there to just benefit from us. Help us to have the strength to release ourselves from purposeless relationships and friendships that really don't come to make us grow.
Father God, help us to really detach from them, people in love, not hatred, but detaching in love is where the power comes. God, we love you. We thank you for allowing us to enter into a new year, Father God. We praise you.
We glorify your holy name and the name of Jesus Christ. We pray. Amen. Until next week, y'all, I love y'all.
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