EP 14: Why Our Attraction to Dysfunction, Toxicity and Unhealth is Hurting Us with Dr. Alexia Holovatyk

Back with another episode on relationships, and this time, I'm joined by the amazing Dr. Alexia Holovatyk! We dive deep into the mystery of why we're often drawn to those who seem emotionally unavailable. Using the lens of attachment theory, we unpack why these patterns persist and, more importantly, how we can break free to find healthier connections. We chat about the power of self-awareness, making mindful choices, and understanding how our past shapes our present. Plus, we get real about the importance of checking in with ourselves during those nerve-wracking dates. Tune in for some serious relationship wisdom! About Alexia Holovatyk Dr. Alexia Holovatyk is a licensed clinical psychologist with a nearly a decade of experience helping women navigate relationships and identifying the root cause of their attachment issues. She is the founder of Live Well Psychology Group, a private practice located in West Los Angeles, and co-founder of the Self-Healing Toolkit, an integrative online course and community, designed to help women heal from stress and trauma. She is also an advisor to Alurx, a behavioral health app, working to help people develop healthy habits to better cope with stress. www.livewellpsychologygroup.comdr.alexia@livewellpsychologygroup.com00:00 Introduction and Topic Reveal00:24 Understanding Attraction to Unavailable People02:22 Guest's Perspective on Attraction03:44 Exploring the Concept of 'Spark' in Relationships09:19 The Role of Self-Perception in Attraction12:30 The Impact of Availability in Attraction14:10 The Fear of Commitment and Its Influence on Attraction17:51 The Role of Excitement in Attraction25:27 Understanding the Meaning of 'Boredom' in Relationships26:54 Understanding the Dynamics of Dating27:30 The Importance of Self-Awareness in Relationships28:35 The Layers of Dating and Attraction32:16 The Role of Environment in Sparking Chemistry35:43 The Highs and Lows of Toxic Relationships39:07 The Reality of Love and Relationships42:56 The Choice and Loss in Commitment46:40 Navigating the Dating World49:11 Final Thoughts and Wrap Up1:1 Coaching with BeatriceDating and relationships can bring up confusion, self doubt, or emotional activation, even for people who are thoughtful, self aware, and growth oriented. When the same patterns keep repeating, it’s often a sign something deeper is asking for attention. I work one on one with people navigating this, helping them build the emotional security and clarity needed for healthy, aligned relationships. If you’re curious about working together, you can book a call through the link below we’ll see if it’s the right fit.Book a Call Instagram:@letstalkrelationships_Website: https://www.theltrpodcast.com/