(Ep. 15) Deep Dive Into Famous Quotes from Laura Duncan (Part 2)

What if the person you think is hurting you is mostly pressing on a wound that was already there?In this episode of Triggered & True, Laura Duncan and co-host Brian Freise continue through the sayings Laura's clients carry with them — the one-liners that stay accessible even in a triggered moment, when your adult brain has gone offline and big ideas are out of reach.They open with the coding metaphor: your adult self is the website, your child self is the coding — which is why self-help books so often fail, because you're editing the site without touching what's underneath. From there: why "the bigger the trigger, the younger you are" is a fast way to locate yourself mid-reaction, and how capital-letter emotions (capital-A Angry, capital-L Lonely) signal you're in your child brain, while lowercase feelings mean you're still in your adult one. Laura explains why trying harder to be good only deepens shame, and closes with her most provocative line — you can't hurt people or help people — unpacking capital-H hurt as an old wound being pressed, why helpers burn out believing others' okayness is their responsibility, and why safety, ultimately, is an inside job.In this episode: 🔹 "Change the coding and you change the website" — why adult-level fixes have to be maintained manually 🔹 "The bigger the trigger, the younger you are" — a quick way to gauge how far you've gone into your child brain🔹 Capital-letter vs. lowercase emotions: the difference between a wound reacting and a human feeling 🔹 Why trying to be "good" feeds shame — and why connection to who you are is the only way out 🔹 "You can't hurt people or help people" — capital-H hurt, helper burnout, and why safety is an inside jobThis is part two of the Laura Duncan quotes conversation — the first half is in the previous episode.📩 Get your free Weekly Dose of Compassion — two short notes in your inbox every week. One to speak over yourself. One from Laura: https://www.lauraduncan.com/pl/2148814868🔗 Learn more: https://triggeredandtrue.com https://lauraduncan.com