Ep 15: How to Stop the Impulse to ‘Rescue and Fix’

Do you often have the impulse to jump in and "fix" someone else's problems, rather than truly listening?Why do we feel this urge to rescue? What does it cost us, and the people around us, when we swoop in with solutions and advice? In this show, we slow down, ask thoughtful questions, and explore new ways of showing up for ourselves and each other. Listen to this enlightening conversation with your hosts Rebecca and Diane to explore how listening can be more powerful than offering solutions.Here are the Highlights:00:00 Coaching involves allowing discomfort to promote growth.06:05 Assumptions often lead us to think others want solutions when they share problems, but it's crucial to ask explicitly how we can help.07:21 Leaders often assume their role is to give advice and solutions, but asking what others need can be more helpful.11:28 Dependence on rescuers stifles creativity, confidence, and motivation.14:10 Slow down to speed up; build self-awareness of rescuing behaviours and their impact on others.16:58 Embracing discomfort can reveal true emotions and clarity quickly.21:12 Reflect on some self-coaching questions.About Rebecca & Diane:Rebecca Walker and Diane Williams, leadership coaches with over 20 years experience, are on a mission to de-bunk some of the myths and barriers surrounding coaching, making it accessible to all, with a touch of humour and a human approach.  Diane brings energy and enjoyment to her coaching. She offers you time and space to deepen your thinking, reflect on how you are working and bring impactful behavioural change. Diane also works with teams to help them develop and reach their collective potential. Rebecca coaches teams, leaders and emerging leaders across many different sectors. She brings empathy with a healthy dose of challenge to help leaders navigate their style and impact. She also helps teams to thrive through building trust and deep collaboration. Headflex will flex the subjects that commonly appear in their coaching sessions and challenge each other and their guests to answer thought provoking questions, unlock answers and shift perspectives.  Connect with us at Headflex:  Email: [email protected]. Website: www.headflex.co.uk Instagram: www.instagram.com/head.flex/Connect with Rebecca Walker: www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccawalker13/Connect with Diane Williams: www.linkedin.com/in/dianewilliams1Produced by Winter Audio.