Ep. 15 Relational Fuckery, The Pursuit Of Perfection Vs Connecting Through Our Humanity - James-Olivia Chu Hillman

Send us Fan MailThis episode is a treasure trove of wisdom for anyone seeking to cultivate healthier relationships. James-Olivia Chu Hillman is on the show this week. We explore the differences between being witnessed and being perceived. We talk about love beyond its fuzzy feeling and dive into &  examine supremacy culture, perfectionism, objectivity and their implications on our self-connection and relationships with others. Gain insights into managing disagreements, understand the transformative power of slowing down, asking pivotal questions and the limitations and potential that can shape the outcomes of our conversations. At the heart of their conversation is the profound sentiment that love is both a decision and action, not just emotion. James-Olivia Insta Lisa's Reclaiming Resilience CourseLisa's Insta00:00 Introduction to Supremacy Culture and Perfectionism00:59 Podcast Introduction and Guest Introduction02:50 Exploring the Concept of Being Witnessed vs Being Perceived03:17 Introduction to James Olivia and Her Work09:42 Exploring the Difference Between Being Witnessed and Being Perceived14:37 Understanding the Impact of Supremacy Culture on Relationships20:57 Offer for a Somatic Healing Course27:24 Understanding the Concept of Relational Fuckery32:28 Discussing the Importance of Relating to Self36:46 Understanding the Role of Supremacy Culture in Relational Issues44:42 The Importance of Connection in Relationships46:30 The Power of Physical Connection and Closeness47:14 Practices for Enhancing Connection: Kind Eyes and Presence48:07 Navigating Online Disagreements and Maintaining Connection48:51 The Role of Social Media in Connection and Disconnection51:06 The Importance of Being Seen and Heard53:18 The Power of Challenging Our Own Beliefs56:30 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Reclaiming Pleasure01:02:44 The Importance of Love and Relating in Relationships01:15:58 The Power of Asking 'What Do I Want?' in Relationships01:18:55 Where to Find More Resources on Relating and Connection01:20:36 Closing Thoughts and Appreciation