EP 15: Why Suppressing Your Anger Is Actually the Worst Thing You Can Do

What happens when you spend years suppressing how you really feel? When every emotion gets pushed down, smoothed over, laughed off? When being fine becomes so automatic you can't even remember the last time you weren't?Eventually - something gives.Maybe it's your body. Maybe it's a relationship. Maybe it's just this quiet, persistent feeling that you've been living slightly outside of yourself for a really long time. Going through the motions. Functioning perfectly well. But not really there.This week's guest Paulina Burzynska knows exactly what that feels like. And she's been on the other side of it.In this conversation she gets completely honest about what it took to stop performing strength and start actually living. But this isn't your typical healing story.She's here to tell you the truth.About anger - and why it's not the enemy you were taught it was. About nervous system regulation - and why calm was never actually the goal. About those big loud emotional healing experiences - and why they might be doing a lot less than you think.By the end of this episode you'll have a completely different way of looking at your emotions. A new understanding of what your body has been trying to tell you. And a simple practice you can try at home that will reveal more about where you are emotionally than you might expect.This episode will hit different if you've ever:Been the strong one for so long you forgot what it feels like not to beSaid you're fine so many times you actually stopped knowing if you wereGone to a retreat or healing experience and come home feeling more lost than beforeWondered why all the breathwork and meditation still isn't filling the gapFelt like there's a version of you underneath it all that nobody actually knowsWhat we cover in this episode:What growing up as the strong one really costs you in the long runHow people pleasing quietly disconnects you from your own truthWhy suppressing emotions doesn't make them go away and where they actually goThe real truth about anger that the wellness world isn't telling youWhy releasing emotions and expressing emotions are two very different thingsWhy nervous system regulation was never supposed to mean being calmThe problem with big cathartic healing experiences and what actually creates lasting changeWhat trauma-informed healing really looks like when done properly⁠DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE 16-MINUTE GUIDED BREATHWORK AUDIO HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Where to Find Paulina Burzynska :Instagram: @with.paulinaWebsite: withpaulina.comConnect with Fini Cooper:Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thebreathway ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠& ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@emerge.podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠thebreathway.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠