EP 156: Why the father wound makes A-level women chase men & money — and how to become magnetic

You’re not “too much.” You’re not “too ambitious.” And you’re definitely not unlucky in love.But if you keep finding yourself over-giving, overworking, and attracting emotionally unavailable men… there’s a deeper pattern at play.In this episode, we’re unpacking the father wound — and how it silently shapes the way high-achieving women relate to masculine energy, aka men and money.Because this isn’t just about dating the wrong guy. It’s about why receiving feels unsafe. Why you default to proving, chasing, and perfecting & why no level of success ever quite feels like enough.Inside, I break down:Why the father wound wires you for anxious attachment and attraction to unavailable menHow it drives over performance in business (and blocks true wealth)The hidden link between emotional unavailability and your “type”Why “queen energy” isn’t a vibe — it’s a result of inner safety and wholenessAnd how to shift from chasing to magnetismThis episode will call you forward and show you what’s actually been running the show behind the scenes.So pour your matcha, open your journal, and get ready babe — because this is where you stop earning love, money, and validation… and start receiving it.Intrigued by this episode and committed to diving wayyy deeper this year?This is the work we do inside my brand new 4-month mastermind experience, THE MAGNETIC WOMAN.Lemme break the curriculum down for you and give you a pre-taste of what awaits you when you go all in:Identity & Mindset Recalibration— aka not “thinking differently”, but being different, and leading yourself differently in everyday life situations. Feminine Embodiment + Nervous System Safety— Think – attraction without anxious attachment. Connection without neediness. Inner wholeness. No more rushing around, stressing, overthinking, or chasing out of fear.Somatic Healing Work— That’s when old patterns dissolve, and your standards for yourself and others naturally rise. Aligned Wealth + Career Expansion— Strategy + resource management to make your life and career effortless and successful. It’s time to master money, take quantum leaps in your career and have more freedom.Love + Relationship Calibration— Embody secure, healthy feminine energy in your love life to finally have that yummy, healthy, polarised romance you desire and deserve.And if you felt your body expand just by reading this…this first-ever round may just be meant for you, bby.Ready to become The Magnetic Woman who attracts effortlessly in 2026 & become THAT WOMAN? CLAIM YOUR SPOT IN MY BRAND NEW, INTIMATE MASTERMIND EXPERIENCE HERE! —-In this episode, I discuss: 00:55 - Intro to the episode - how to become magnetic by healing your father wound04:20 - The reason why top tier women chase masculine energy (men & money)10:30 - The connection between your anxious attachment & chasing energy13:45 - Why perfectionism is the silent driver of your life + how this plays out25:50 - What *Queen energy* looks like in action + why it requires inner wholeness 35:25 - Fun fact - chasing men and money is a result of the exact same pattern39:12 - Practices to begin healing those old patterns 46:10 - A quick little life update + what’s next for me—Connect with Laura: Laura’s Website: https://www.lauraherde.com/Laura’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laura.herde/Laura’s 1-1 Coaching: https://www.lauraherde.com/application-1-1Laura’s Coaching Certification Course: https://www.instagram.com/embodiedcoachacademy/>> EMAIL ME TO CONNECT/ FOR QUESTIONS: [email protected]>> FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM FOR MORE CONTENT: @laura.herde Feel free to share this episode with your bestie, and tag us on IG when you listen so we can repost you. If you’re a loyal listener and would like to support the show, leave us a rating/ review, it means the world!Make sure to be subscribed to UNFUCK YOUR LIFE, we publish episodes for you every single Tuesday.Thank you so much for tuning in, love xx