Ep.158: Getting Close with Aidan Wharton: Connection and Building Relationships That Actually Fit

In this episode, we cover: Meet Aidan Wharton: from theater school to the Wicked national tour and Broadway’s Girl From the North Country Why Aidan “checked the boxes” in acting—and followed boredom and curiosity into writing + podcasting The origin story of Aidan’s podcast Getting Close and its three pillars: curiosity, connection, community How technology can be both a tool and a wedge—and why Aidan can’t stop thinking about how it’s pulling us apart Zach’s Provincetown dinner story: when everyone’s on Grindr and nobody is actually together The “watch the movie” debate: why phones during TV time drive some of us absolutely insane Practical habits to fight the scroll: deleting apps you don’t need keeping your phone out of the bedroom switching to an analog alarm clock Aidan’s love-hate relationship with Instagram: business vs. mindless scrolling Aidan and Casey’s love story: meeting on Hinge long distance during tour moving in right before COVID breaking up, regrouping, and rebuilding the mutual proposal idea: exchanging rings on the same day a wedding in Hawaii with a week-long community vibe—and yes, Aidan grew up in a yurt A real conversation about open relationships: why Aidan believes relationships can be “custom-built” what people get wrong (and loud) online jealousy as an “incredible teacher” that points to deeper needs why openness often gets blamed for breakups even when the issues were already there Adult friendship and community-building: why making friends as an adult is hard (and takes intentional work) Aidan’s “say yes to everything” social experiment why follow-up texts matter the idea of friendship as shared curiosity Zach’s take on Boston vs. New York gay social culture How Aidan chooses guests for Getting Close (so far): starting with people he trusts while the show is still “baby” guests ranging from queer fitness to sex therapy to investigative journalism Aidan’s dream guests and influences: Anna Lembke (Dopamine Nation) Johann Hari (Stolen Focus) Vivek Murthy and the loneliness epidemic big-picture hopes for cultural + political conversations rooted in empathy Aidan’s message for anyone feeling disconnected: connection doesn’t require a giant life overhaul it starts with small actions—one text, one coffee, one choice to get close Mentioned in the episode: Aidan’s podcast: Getting Close Aidan’s Substack: Gay Buffet Tools + habits: analog alarm clock, phone boundaries, intentional social “yes” seasons Call to action If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe to Everything and Anything in a Bit Gay and check out Getting Close wherever you listen. And if you’re craving more connection in your own life—send one text today. One small “get close” moment counts. Podcast song by SIXFOOT 5: https://www.sixfoot5prod.com Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.