Ep 16: Why You Keep Choosing the Wrong Person w/ Coach Cosmina

Cosmina is a self-worth and relationship coach working with high-performing women.But this conversation isn’t about dating advice.It starts outside. Light conversation. Open space.Then the rain hits. You move inside… and something shifts.The conversation gets quieter. Closer. More honest.In this episode of The Glow Up Economy, Tuan sits down with Cosmina to explore the patterns most people don’t realise they’re repeating in love — and why what feels right in your body… isn’t always truth.They unpack the difference between intuition and anxiety, how early conditioning shapes attraction, and why people often choose familiarity over what’s actually good for them.Cosmina shares her own experiences — from leaving a long-term relationship that looked perfect on paper, to ignoring her intuition in Bali and paying for it physically — and how those moments shaped the work she does today.This conversation moves between identity, nervous system regulation, dating patterns, and self-worth — but at its core, it’s about one thing:learning to trust yourself again.In this episode we talk about:• The difference between intuition and anxiety in the body• Why people choose familiar pain over unfamiliar stability• The belief: “If they choose me, I’m enough”• How childhood conditioning shapes attraction patterns• Why stable relationships can feel unsafe at first• Self-sabotage, emotional patterns, and nervous system responses• Building self-trust through repetition and awareness• The hidden danger of manifestation without grounding• EMDR and rewiring deep-rooted beliefs• Why rest is not weakness — it’s strategy• Letting go of the idea that you’re “too much”This is a grounded conversation about identity, self-worth, dating, emotional patterns, and what it really means to choose differently — not just think differently.TIMESTAMPS:0:00 – Welcome to The Glow Up Economy0:34 – Who Cosmina is & what she does1:10 – What she’s currently working through2:32 – Working in prisons & understanding behaviour3:10 – Leaving an 18-year relationship4:29 – “I had everything… but hadn’t lived”4:47 – What it felt like in her body to leave5:42 – Trusting intuition vs fear of the unknown6:03 – Why “perfect on paper” still feels empty6:31 – The Bali story: ignoring intuition7:44 – The consequence: injury & a permanent reminder8:40 – “If he chooses me, I’m enough”9:11 – Intuition vs anxiety (what’s actually louder?)9:50 – The shift: moving inside as it starts raining10:07 – Anxiety in the body feels like urgency10:31 – Why you don’t choose what’s good for you10:42 – You choose what feels familiar10:49 – Certainty in pain vs uncertainty in healthy love10:56 – Why stability can feel unsafe11:02 – Self-sabotage patterns in dating11:07 – Self-trust is built through reps11:38 – Inner work vs visible success12:01 – Trusting yourself changes everything12:23 – What people get wrong about manifestation13:18 – “I had no food in my fridge”13:34 – Action vs delusion in manifestation14:26 – EMDR & rewiring beliefs15:53 – Core beliefs: “I’m not enough”16:20 – Changing identity at a deeper level17:31 – Burnout, rest, and learning the hard way18:07 – Why rest feels wrong (but isn’t)18:31 – “I am irresponsible” (core belief)19:00 – Scarcity, money, and early conditioning20:10 – Rest as a business strategy21:02 – “You’re not too much”21:48 – Capacity in relationships22:13 – Where to find Cosmina____________________________________ To watch the show click HERE To connect with Cosmina click ⁠HERE⁠ To connect with Tuan Luu click ⁠HERE⁠ Produced by GlowOps Media If you have a question for us or want to request a guest, or collaborate, comment or DM @itstuanluu, @glowopsmedia or @theglowupeconomy.