EP 166: Roland's Story

In this episode of Unashamed Unafraid, hosts Chris and Sam sit down with Roland as he shares his poignant journey of living a double life, challenging his faith, and struggling with process addiction. Roland talks about growing up in a strict religious environment, questioning beliefs at a young age, and the impact of living a double life. He dives into how his need for validation and admiration led to compulsive behaviors that eventually resulted in a traumatic arrest at 14. Roland unpacks the concept of process addiction, explaining the necessity of addressing the underlying desire for validation rather than treating it as a typical addiction. He also discusses his path to recovery and the creation of his treatment program for high-achieving men, 'Successful Addict.' Roland emphasizes the importance of legacy, spirituality, and redefining what true admiration and respect mean in overcoming addiction. This episode provides deep insights into the challenges of process addiction and offers hope and practical advice for those struggling with similar issues.*To connect with Roland, visit his website, check out his book on Amazon, and listen to his podcast!Follow us on social media! Instagram, Facebook & TikTokSubscribe to our YouTubeCheck out our recommended resourcesWant to rep the message? Shop our MERCH!  For more inspiration, read our blogDo you have a story you are willing to share? Send us an email! [email protected]:00 Introduction00:51 Roland's Early Life and Faith Struggles01:54 Living a Double Life02:19 Questioning Religious Beliefs05:08 Impact of Faith on Addiction06:40 Understanding Compulsive Behaviors08:04 Arrest and Its Aftermath10:16 Hiding the Secret and Seeking Validation14:06 Process Addictions and Seeking Attention16:49 Path to Recovery and Redefining Admiration20:40 The Shift from Addiction to Sobriety21:23 Normalization and Society's Influence23:55 The Role of Legacy in Sobriety25:08 Spirituality and Recovery28:30 Understanding Process Addiction32:44 The Successful Addict Program35:33 Final Thoughts and Resources39:32 A Song of Hope and Connection