Ep 17. Parenting Styles 101: What Every ADHDer Needs to Know

Ever wonder why certain tasks feel impossible, while others send you into overdrive? Why you either shut down in the face of difficulty or push yourself to perfection? The way you were parented might have everything to do with it.In this episode, we’re breaking down the four major parenting styles—authoritative, authoritarian, permissive, and neglectful—and how each one impacts kids with ADHD. More importantly, we’ll connect the dots between your upbringing and the struggles you face today. From procrastination to emotional regulation, from self-discipline to self-sabotage, it all ties back.But here’s the good news: You can re-parent yourself. You can break the cycle. You can build resilience, structure, and self-compassion—all the things you might not have been given as a kid.In this episode, you’ll learn about:High expectations with strict discipline. (1:04)Parents believe they are helping by providing structure. (3:03)ADHD kids may either overcompensate for validation or shut down in shame. (5:23)Overcorrecting for their own strict upbringing. (6:30)Avoidance of discomfort—shutting down negative emotions. (10:24)Adults with permissive parenting struggle with self-discipline. (12:30)Lack of structure leads to avoidance of uncomfortable tasks. (14:02)Structure with clear expectations but also warmth and validation. (16:00)Teaching emotional regulation and coping strategies. (18:36)Helping a child learn to sit with discomfort and problem-solve. (19:18)Recognizing past influences and adjusting self-talk. (21:00)Therapy methods like Internal Family Systems (IFS) can help. (22:10)Building resilience and high expectations while being kind to oneself. (24:01)Enrollment for ADHD Untamed is now open! This transformative program is designed to help you embrace your ADHD with confidence, harness your strengths, and create a life that works for you. I’m offering expert guidance, practical tools, and a supportive community, to help you gain clarity, self-acceptance, and strategies to thrive. Don’t miss this opportunity to break free from overwhelm and step into your full potential. Sign up now to start your journey! https://www.anaurban.com/adhd-untamed🌱 Ready to stop second-guessing and start trusting yourself—no matter what emotions arise?🎟️ Save your seat for the live 2-day workshop: Rewire Your Brain for Emotional Resilience in Just 5 Minutes a Day🗓️ May 20 & 22 | Included for Untamed members💻 Grab your ticket today!Want to go even deeper? Join the Untamed coaching experience and build the emotional resilience, clarity, and confidence to create a life that aligns with your values.✨ Weekly live coaching with Ana✨ Emotional regulation & mindset tools✨ The Untamed Freedom Formula course✨ Live masterclasses & workshops every month plus our entire library of past classes on everything from decluttering to perfectionism✨ A wildly relatable, supportive community👉🏽 Join now at anaurban.com/adhd-untamed