Ep. 17: Rebuilding Self-Esteem And Ending Self-Sabotage

Have you ever sabotaged yourself and you can’t figure out why?   You want to get promoted, improve your health and your relationships, achieve a big goal, and somehow you get in your own way and wreck your best-laid plans.    Self-sabotage was definitely a part of my story when I was drinking.    I would be getting ready for a big opportunity at work - a business trip or presentation - and I’d drink the night before. The next day when I was on center stage I was hung over and just trying to make it through the event.  I’d have a social gathering that I was looking forward to for months and drink and then not remember most of it.  I’d want to talk to my husband about something that was really bothering me, and I’d drink and not be able to express myself and my needs rationally and coherently.    The truth is that self-sabotage is the result of low self-esteem.    We only allow into our lives what we feel and believe we deserve.    Building self-esteem is a foundational piece of recovery work.   When you change your self-esteem, your deep, subconscious beliefs about what you think you deserve, you stop self-sabotage.    You can improve your relationships, job, ability to achieve your dreams and goals, financial abundance, the love you attract and your health.    If you don't change those beliefs, regardless of how hard you work, you will sabotage your progress in achieving them, either consciously or unconsciously.    My guest today is Arlina Allen. She’s a Certified Life and Recovery Coach and Host of the award winning recovery podcast, The ODAAT Chat Podcast.   Arlina helps busy professional women to get the clarity they need to get unstuck, and achieve their goals so that they can live the life of their dreams.   Arlina is also the creator of the Reinvent, a six week self-esteem course, where she works with women to get to the root of what's holding them back and change their beliefs so that they can realize their dreams.    In this episode Arlina dives into the framework of her self-esteem course, including the importance of creating the right support system, tools for long term change, and new self image and a vision for what's possible in your future.   In this episode, you’ll learn about:   The law of attraction How to leverage this universal law to manifest your deepest desires How to identify negative beliefs and a process to resolve them and let them go Addressing the causes of fears and anxiety and how to create a compelling future self image  The connection tour, a step-by-step process to create a strong support system Daily activities to build self-esteem The fundamentals of how to create healthy boundaries for inner peace and healthy relationships   Shownotes: www.hellosomedaycoaching.com/17   Grab my free Sober Girls Guide To Quitting Drinking   Links and resources mentioned in this episode   Connect with Arlina Allen https://soberlifeschool.com/ https://selfesteemcourse.com/ Arlina's Podcast: https://odaatchat.com/ ODAAT Chat Private Women's Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/1244862275613746    Connect with Casey McGuire Davidson www.hellosomedaycoaching.com Casey @ Hello Someday Coaching (@caseymdavidson) Listen to more podcast episodes to drink less + live more.