Ep 179 Adrian Black - Creating Community Via a State of Enquiry & Raising the 'Numbness' Bar

"What would it mean for us to start asking questions via embodied feelings rather than spreadsheets & rational outcomes…turn off our head and turn on our belly."“You don’t build communities you build relationships - communities build themselves”Adrian Black is fresh off the plane from 5 weeks of living in an intentional community - a program designed to create a transformative culture. He shares his experience of transferring from being a series of individuals operating in cohesion of each other to operating as a whole via emotional release ceremonies with tears, grief, joy, laughter & dancing.He normalises 'cortisol crying' - metabolising to release deep emotions & reminds us that we have just two needs: belonging & authenticity. He has learnt to avoid ‘happiness’  & ‘perfectionism’- which are colonial constructs that set us up to fail and he is now focussed on actively bringing people together to celebrate with people, give gratitude & take the energy of the world to focus on something beautiful and worthwhile.His final advice is to check in regularly on three things - how are your thoughts, your feelings & your body.References CeresFrancis Weller - the Wild Edge of SorrowDr Gabor MateJoanna MaceyGlarisegg EDEPod Partners Rock: Australian Medicinal HerbsSupport the ShowCasual Support - Buy Me A CoffeeRegular Support - PatreonBuy the Books - Futuresteading - Live Like tomorrow matters, Huddle - creating a tomorrow of togethernessLoved this ep, try this one - Charlie Showers  We chatted about:Live as nature not with nature Having agency & care in how we make our decisionsEcovillage Design Education course Awakening deep memoryRelearning how to functionally live together in communityUnpacking the word communityFocus on Community first, Family second & individual thirdThe role that grief plays in our world & what it truly means to be alive When a physical space can hold SO many things & ask nothing in returnLoneliness at an all time high Accessing the interconnectedness of everything Being authentic, not performativeHearts holding the heartbreak of the world around usWhat is your fear telling you - be curious“I don't always need the light, I just need to remember that it will return”Avoiding polarisation - replace this with “Experience all that is is to be human” The role of ritual in community Frustrated by the reductionist view of the most complex system of all timeWhy decision making isn't as simple as a list of pro’s & consMaking the community self aware of how to manage conflictNon linear decision makingHow do I show up in the relationships in my life. holding care, compassion & curiositySupport the show