EP 18: Date Your Spouse, On Purpose

Stop treating your marriage like a shared calendar and start treating it like a love story you’re still writing. We dive into what it really means to date your spouse—how to define a “good date” together, set clear expectations, and build rituals that bring back pursuit, play, and intimacy without adding pressure. From military separations to the grind of parenting, we unpack why logistics aren’t connection and how to carve out time for presence, laughter, and deeper conversation.We get practical about planning: put the date on the calendar first, agree on the vibe, and protect it from turning into a work meeting. You’ll hear simple prompts that change the tone fast—questions like “What’s been on your mind?” and “How can I love you better?”—and why those only build trust when paired with action. We talk phones-down meals, the power of eye contact, and how small acts of follow-through create safety that invites honesty. If money or childcare is tight, we share at-home date ideas that still feel special: early bedtime for the kids, candlelight steak for two, a saved movie, and time to flirt without interruptions.Joy matters too. Laughter is not a luxury; it’s glue. Try playful traditions like an alphabet restaurant tour, a beach walk, or a game night that lets you be silly. Physical affection belongs on the list—move beyond perfunctory kisses and bring back warmth and excitement. And if you’ve slipped into the “roommates” rut, use this as your pivot point. Pick one night, one simple plan, and one brave question. Keep them how you caught them: pursue, plan, and play. If this resonated, subscribe, share with a friend who needs a nudge, and leave a review with your favorite date idea—we’ll try a few on our next night out.SHOW NOTES: Contact us at [email protected] FROM TODAYS EPISODE1. Date Your Wife: get it here--- Amazon.com: Date Your Wife (Audible Audio Edition): Justin Buzzard, Lyle Blaker, One Audiobooks: Audible Books & Originals2. Strengthening Your Marriage: get it here--- Amazon.com: Strengthening Your Marriage (Audible Audio Edition): Wayne A. Mack, Jim Denison, christianaudio.com: Books3. For our friends in the Southeast, The Billy Graham Retreat center does FREE Military Marriage Retreats, you just have to get yourself there. Check the dates out here--- Events - Billy Graham Training Center at the Cove Support the showhttp://instagram.com/militarywellnesscollective