Ep 18: When A Season Becomes A Lifestyle

Temporary sacrifice can be part of a healthy marriage. Permanent distance can sneak in so quietly that you don’t notice it until you feel like strangers living under the same roof.We’re Aaron and Kim Degler, and we’re talking about marriage seasons: the times when work ramps up, kids need everything, someone gets hurt, or life just demands more than usual. We share our own story of long hours building a business, the chaos of raising four kids, and how easy it is to tell yourself “this is just what we have to do” even after the hardest part is over. That’s where resentment grows: one spouse adapts by carrying the load, the other gets comfortable in the pattern, and the season becomes a lifestyle.We also get practical about what helps. We dig into self-awareness, teamwork, and calm communication that happens before things blow up. We talk about setting expectations going into a busy stretch, checking in during it, and making a real plan for what life should look like after it ends. And yes, we say it clearly: counseling isn’t a sign you failed, it can be a tool to strengthen an already good marriage.Our hot take says it straight: “Just because life asks for temporary sacrifice doesn’t mean marriage should accept permanent distance.” If you’re feeling stretched thin or stuck in a pattern you didn’t choose, hit play, then share this with your spouse and talk about what season you’re in. Subscribe, share, and leave a review so we can reach more couples.