Ep 185: Training Your Heart to Lead Instead of Hide (and What I've Practiced Lately)

Send us Fan MailThis episode dives deep into transforming how we relate to ourselves and others by flipping destructive narratives that keep us trapped in cycles of self-improvement. True self-esteem doesn't come from eliminating uncomfortable feelings but from growing your capacity to be with them while believing you deserve happiness.I share my journey meeting with two touchy experiences in my own relationship dojo: 👉 Daring to express genuine feelings to someone I care about👉 Tolerating separation without panicRealizing that my nervous system capacity for those two was in all honesty quite crappy,  got me to meet with patterns that came from past trauma and unsafety. What once served as shields were now limiting authentic connection.Listen to understand how you can move through similar friction points in your own dojo - whether you're dating, in a committed partnership or simply growing.This isn't about waiting for someone else to change—it's about changing how you relate to what's happening inside you. Go first in love, starting with how you show up for yourself, and watch as that ripples outward into all your relationships. Are you ready to become the loving leader you were always meant to be? Now enrolling for the fall:My yearlong mentorship into secure relating and leading from love:The Embodied Relationship Academy (ERA)2 days in person Sep 30-Oct 1 included!Next coaching training cohort starts in October.Read more about the Nagual: mystery school and coach certificationRegistration open for 2027 power journey:Mexico February