Ep. 186 Unlearning to Lead with Shirley Skyers-Thomas

What if leadership growth starts with confronting the story you’ve been carrying your entire life?This week on Mission CTRL, Ramon sits down with Shirley Skyers-Thomas — attorney, Deputy Commissioner of the State of Connecticut, executive coach, and author of UnLEARNEDed: Honor Your Story, Release Restraints, and Embrace Your Power. Raised in Bridgeport by Jamaican parents and shaped by faith, family, and service, Shirley shares how her journey - from pastor’s kid to government employee - informs the way she leads and advocates today.In this conversation, Shirley breaks down why personal development and leadership development can’t be separated, especially for small and micro-business owners who often lack access to formal training. She challenges leaders to recognize their own narratives, unpack limiting beliefs formed early in life, and understand how those stories quietly show up in delegation, trust, and team dynamics.She also opens up about writing UnLEARNEDed during the pandemic - a deeply vulnerable process sparked by turning 40 and realizing that professional success had become a façade. The book, and her work today, invite leaders to interrupt old thought patterns, embrace continuous growth, and lead with authenticity.Whether you’re a founder, executive, or leader navigating change, this episode is a powerful reminder that honoring your story is the first step toward sustainable leadership and lasting impact.