Ep 19: Choosing Your Circle: Crafting Healthy Boundaries After Abuse

As you heal from domestic violence or narcissistic abuse it is common to start reevaluating the relationships in your life.  You may start to notice that there are others in your world that are abusive to you in different ways which may cause a lot of hurt and anger.In this episode you will get some ideas on how to assess your current relationships and how they either positively or negatively affect your life.  With this new information, you will then be able to decide what role these people will get to play in your life and the lives of your children.We discuss the difference between going no-contact and having a detached contact in your relationships and will offer different strategies for making this decision and how to hold firm to your decision.  Some of the strategies for maintaining a detached relationship are:Asking yourself what support you will need to maintain emotional distance while being in the presence of the personIdentifying and challenging your cognitive distortionsLearning to regulate your nervous system and trauma responsesManaging your expectationsUsing radical acceptanceShow LinksBook: Healing From Hidden Abuse by Shannon Thomashttps://www.amazon.com/Healing-Hidden-Abuse-Recovery-Psychological/dp/0997829087/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2MPSD4CEYN4W0&keywords=healing+from+hidden+abuse&qid=1665419749&qu=eyJxc2MiOiIyLjQyIiwicXNhIjoiMS45NyIsInFzcCI6IjEuODgifQ%3D%3D&sprefix=healing+from+%2Caps%2C177&sr=8-1Please leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic, I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show, you may do so here at Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/Wondering where to start? Check out our top free resources - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/resources.htmlIf you're interested in guesting on the show, please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest