EP 192 Navigating the Impossible w/ Aisha Taylor

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I can talk, people. Welcome to Episode 192. Today, I'm going to have a guest on the show. Ayesha Taylor.

She's going to tell us about her story. This young lady wrote a book. She's an author, entrepreneur. She has some corporate experience, but what she's all about is equipping single moms to be whole.

What is it? To be whole, financially free, and rooted in Christ, to live whole, financially free, and rooted in Christ. Today's show is a special one, where we're going to explore the background, experiences, and mind of a single mother. We know that in the world today, not just in America, per se, America's really one of the worst as it relates to broken homes and things.

And so many times you hear people talking about the problems, right? And we'll talk about some of those. But anybody who listens to this show knows that I'm a solutions-oriented person. So I like to explore the solutions and how people are surviving and overcoming.

Because at the end of the day, we all have problems. We've all fallen short of the glory of God. And I got a lot of love for single mothers out there because there are various circumstances that can put you in that position. And whether it's your own fault, surroundings, how you grew up, you will get Aisha's perspective on all that.

But the big thing about it, people out there, is that with Jesus Christ, you can't overcome anything. Thus, we named today's show after our Aisha's book, Navigating the Impossible. Well, her book is actually navigating the impossible. And then it's like a whole, like we're going to get into like the subtitle there, a single mom survival guy.

But I hope that you enjoy the content today. Look, this is a serious topic. This is an important topic. And the goal is that we put out information to strengthen the single mothers out there today and also prevent young ladies from becoming more single mothers in.

You know, sometimes when we have problems and things going on in our lives, some of them can be justified. Some of them can be our fault. We are forgiven when we repent. We're repent.

The Christ Jesus, but at the end of the day, look, I made some mistakes that I wouldn't want my children to make. So we are all about trying to make sure the next generation gets the right information. And you don't always have to make the mistakes we made. But you do know and can know that if you find yourself in a position, there is a way out in Jesus Christ.

So today's all about single mom. Y'all sit back, relax and enjoy the inspiration. I can see beyond the tears you cry and the pain you feel. I saw every hill you have in climate, just a make it here.

When you say you ain't afraid to die. It's a fucking fear. Guys, people, we are back. And I got my guest on today.

Aisha Taylor. What's up? Aisha, how you feeling tonight? Hi, I am doing great.

Thank you for having me. Thank you for being a willing guest on Aspire Guys, people to podcast. I'm excited to kick in with you, learn a little bit about your story. As I said in the intro, you know, your whole business and things that you're about in ministry and faith is really about single moms.

So we're going to explore all those topics and talk about your book, navigate me impossible. I know that you have a huge focus on faith and finance. I'm really interested in knowing what led you there. But before we do all that, Aisha, what we like to do on this show is find out who you were before we find out who you are.

So can you take us back to your childhood, whatever you want to share about your childhood, what are the things that made you who you are today and impacted you? Who was Aisha growing up in college, high school, whatever it may be? I appreciate that question so much. It's such a loaded question, right?

Because it was so funny, when I was growing up, people used to say that I was like a goody tissues and I kind of was, right? You know, teachers had got good grades. Like when I graduated from high school, I was like magna cum laude, national honors society, like did really well. But at the same time, I was somebody who was like seeking after other people's approval.

And so it caused me to just, you know, ended up seeking my approval from guys that I did because I had low self-esteem. I was very smart, did very well academically, but at the same time really struggled with some low self-esteem and self-confidence issues. And so interestingly enough, like I kind of grew up in a church, but like not really. And so it was really weird because I ended up growing up partly in like a new age church.

And so I thought something was odd about the church, like when I was in service one, and the pastor said, Jesus Christ didn't die for your sins because you weren't born yet. And I was like, okay, I might be a teenager. I might not know as much Bible as you, but I'm pretty certain that the Bible says that Jesus Christ died on the crossfire. It didn't hurt.

We were born yet or not. And so that was the type of like environment in a church I grew up in, but I was very involved. At the time I was a classically trained flaudist. So I used to play at church.

I used to perform, travel, a matter of fact, around the world because of, because of like playing the flute. But at the same time, like I said, I was like very, I don't know if you've ever met people who are like very strong academically, but at the same time chase after the wrong people and make some poor decisions at the same time. I got you up to it. Like that was me.

I ended up going into college, did very well academically as well, but still kind of like balancing that personal and, you know, academically. And I ended up walking away from Christ because I couldn't really reconcile the hypocrisy that I saw at church. Some of the things that I was seeing because because of my musical background, I performed at different churches. And so I had a chance to see like some very strange doctrine and see how people in the faith treated each other.

And so by me being a teenager, I couldn't really reconcile this. I was a teenager in my early 20s when I used to perform. And so I just couldn't reconcile it in my brain. It was just like, how is it that I'm reading in my Bible about this loving God?

At that time, I was also a president of like the youth group at church. So I was really struggling in my faith because like, how is it that the people I respect? How is it that what I'm supposed to see in the Bible, I'm not seeing displayed in the church. I ended up walking away from the faith for about seven years.

Got to the point where I totally renounced God. Like I don't know if I ultimately would consider myself an atheist or what, but I just walked away from the faith totally. And so I remember at times I was considering becoming a Buddhist because I'm like, okay, I do yoga. So maybe this is what's up for me, right?

But I don't do yoga anymore. But I used to. And so I really explored converting to Buddhism. And it's interesting how the enemy will place people in your life to encourage you to make wrong decisions.

And so I ended up working with this amazing woman and internship. And she was somebody who left the faith and she gave me this one book. I'm not going to tell the name of it, but for me to be able to explore converting into Buddhism. But by the grace of God, I never actually went that route.

I just kind of stayed away from God. And I told my kids this too. I'm like, you know, when I described to them a practical son, I'm like, that was me. That's my journey where I was in faith, left faith got into like this, you know, I ended up turning into like a club girl.

And it was just so interesting because I would club and party five days a week. But yeah, I had this amazing corporate finding as career by this point. And so like I said, I'm living this dual life. I have two master's degrees, two bachelor's degrees, a minor for the most prestigious schools in the whole world.

But yeah, I was living this dual lifestyle between party girl and corporate person. And like I said, I always did well academically, but it just led me to start to make some bad decisions. And then I was sleeping around just like doing this a whole bunch of mess, right? Just in life.

And the Lord just really got a hold of my heart, really just captivated my heart. And it was so funny. I remember being on the airplane one day. And you know, have you ever been on a plane where it felt like a plane was going to fall out the sky?

Yes. Yeah, literally, I have actually. Yes, I was on a plane one day and it felt like it was about to fall out the sky. And I'm sitting here like Jesus, just get us, just get us, like I cried out to God, like how the disciples were crying out on water like Jesus.

So while this water is, it helps like wait a second, I must have looked real crazy to all of us. Because I'm like, I don't do that anymore. What am I doing? Why am I crying out to Jesus?

And I'm like, when we got on the ground safely, I'm like, thank you Lord. I'm like, why am I doing this? Why am I doing this? Like, I'll do this anymore.

But it was just the Lord started to just grab a hold of my heart. And then fast forward a couple of years, you know, still partying and still in the club. And I ended up making a YouTube about this about how sometimes we as Christians can judge people on their walk. But we don't know how God is using them.

Because I have people who are believers who are in the club with me. But the biggest difference was that they went up and went to church the next morning. And I was like, what is this guy saying? Sam Ballad like in the Bible.

And I'll be like, I can then like, why y'all about to go to church? Like, I even don't change your clothes because it's kind of late. And you have to go to church. Like, what?

Really? Like it's more, you mean you have to roll up and go to church and they kept inviting me to church. And I was just like, no, no, I'm not going, I don't do that anymore. And then one day, a friend of mine said, we have a back going.

I bet you you're not going to step foot at church anymore. And I said, don't tell me what I really will not do. I will see you at church. But not on Sunday, I'll do that.

I'll go to Bible study. That's funny. I went to Bible study. And the pastor was talking about the seeds, the different type of soil.

And so I realized that I was at good seed that the weeds were choking out because it cares the world. And at that point, I said, I didn't want to be that. I wanted to be the good seed in the fertile soil that bore fruit. I didn't want my seed to be choked.

I didn't want the plant to be choked out. And at that point, I just started going to church. I like rededicated my life to Christ maybe a year or so later. And then just, you know, just came back to him.

Aisha, first of all, that's an amazing kind of timeline. Like you took us through a couple things. So first, I need to go back to something very important. And if I heard you correctly, you said you were a club in five days a week.

Like, I ain't even know the clubs was open like that first of all. And cool that was to you because I can't see, you know, like this is one of the amazing things about life and why I love change and why I love Jesus is because when God transformed somebody, like you sitting here telling us the story and I've been following you for a while on social media. And I'm telling you like legit, I would have never in my life guessed. If some I would have when, you know, talk about bets, I would have bet a million dollars.

Like, no, that girl ain't not from she been consistently this way on social media. But it just speaks to the way that God can transform us. And when he changes our hearts, there's something that starts happening on the inside that flows over to the outside. And it even impacts how people can see us.

And it's this weird thing where people who didn't know you, like they can see you and not believe that you were how you were. And people who knew you can see you and not believe that you are how you are. Because for them, it's like, no, I saw you in the club five days a week, like, ain't no way. So first of all, just shout out to you.

Like, how long did you keep that up? How many was it a year? Don't tell me it was more than a year. That's like stamina.

It's crazy. It had to have been, you know what? I'm sure I'm thinking it probably was a good two years that I did that. And you know what?

It's so funny because sometimes you think people don't know, I guess almost like living a dual life. And you think that you're doing a good job hiding it. And I remember one time like, when I tell you like, this is how I was, I legit, this is how I was. So I remember one day being at work and keep in mind, I had a six-maker career in corporate America in corporate finance.

And so I remember one of my co-workers pulled me aside one day and said, I just want to let you know, you might want to stay away from people today because I can smell the alcohol coming from your pores. Man. And I was just like, oh, like this other lifestyle, like, I'm not hiding it. Like, is this actually following me?

Yeah. It's hard. You talk about like that, that double life, right? So you mentioned you went to some of the most prestigious schools in the university, I mean, in the US, can you just talk about that a little bit, like, so, you know, you talk about the club side of it, but what schools did you go to, what degrees did you obtain?

And just, I also want to kind of hear about like, how did that shape that phase of your life? Because it seems like both sides will be tugging at you, you making six figures, you got these degrees. Was there another voice in your head from that side kind of pulling you back and reminding you like you smart, you this or that, or were you so caught up in that other world that you couldn't even hear it? The funny thing is, is that that what my co-workers told me, that was a wake up call for me.

I didn't want to lose everything that I built. And so I started to pull back from the club scene because I'm like, at this point, this is a house of cards. And it's going to come down because there were times where I would have, I would be hungover, like I would just find a bathroom far, far, far away from my office, my floor, my department, and just be growing up, just to be able to get everything out of my system. So I knew that I could not, I couldn't just keep that up for a long time.

So this went on for probably about two years or so. And, but at school, so I went to Duke for undergrad. So I did Duke undergrad. So I got a bachelor's in economics and also a bachelor's in public policy.

And I went to the University of Michigan and got an MBA in finance and also master's of health services administration. And I also have a minor in chemistry. So when I saw my academic credentials, I legit liked diligent. Oh yeah, you smart.

She's smart. Yeah. So you went to U of M and Duke. That's interesting.

You went to two schools, taught to the FAD five and grant you back in the day. Okay. And you know, I'm going back to basketball. I got some rivals on the basketball court, but no, so at the end of the day, like you're educated, you have these degrees, you went to these prestigious schools.

You know, maybe people wouldn't look and think that on the other end, you clubbed five days a week. And you also mentioned, but I was part of the school. Yeah, what do you think about them good schools like that? Yup.

Also probably got some quality party stuff. But when you talk about that, like that experience to a church, like I don't want to overlook that, where you said you were in this new age church and you kind of left the faith and even entertained Buddhism was hitting yoga and all these things. And I think that's important because when people go through church, hurt or however we want to categorize it, like that is something that pushes people away from the faith, like, and for all the reasons that you gave, you know, and I want to pick your brain a little bit about, you know, this is more so to the believers out there now of like, how dangerous it is when we play both sides of the fence like that. Because I think what happens I use and I be curious what you think is people who grew up in church, also they want to fit in.

So they start doing the other things and from the church side that use excuse like, whatever I still love God, but they don't understand the other side of how detrimental it can be for someone who's maybe not in their position. I think it's detrimental to them too. But I want you to just if you could speak to that church person out there that's playing both sides of the fence and doesn't realize how much of a negative impact I could be having on souls. You know what, it's very detrimental.

Like honestly, you can't play both sides. Like just as I mentioned with my career, I realized I couldn't play both sides. I was even going to have to choose this club party life. I was going to have to choose my career because at that point, it was catching up to me.

You cannot, the Bible says you can't serve God in man. You really can't. You can't serve God in the world because you'll either love one or hate the other. And your actions just really reveal what it is that you believe and what it is that you serve.

And the other thing is that when you're going out to the club scenes, to the party scene, you have to realize the spiritual nature of this. If you're going out, if you're drinking, if you're acting ridiculous, if you're sleeping around, this is your soul that you're impacting. Your foreman is soul ties with people. You're just how you're coming across.

Because think about it. Like how is somebody going to look at you and see you pukin and act crazy at the club, but then you're going to talk about how you love Jesus. It doesn't make sense. And so we have to realize I was just reading, I think it was Isaiah 44 or 43 not that long ago.

And I forget what passage is actually in Isaiah 43 or 44. And what it says is what the Bible says is that how God, it was talking about the redemption of Israel and how God was talking about how Israel was going to be redeemed. They're going to be left, they're going to be free from activity and how he blessed Israel and the heart changed that Israel would have as a result of God's favor and blessing and presence coming back to them was going to change their lives and because it changed their lives, it was going to invite the pagan nations to want to worship the God that Israel served. And it was going to be because it saw the favor of God on Israel, but it wasn't just the favor of God.

It was the behavioral difference of Israel because at that point, the whole reason why Israel went into captivity is because of idolatry. There were works should be the pagan false gods. There were acting in some cases worse than the pagan nations. And we see that even in I think it's their first Corinthians when Paul was writing to the Corinthians, church and this is New Covenant though, right?

That point is I don't want you to think that I'm confusing it to but I'm talking about two different points in time because it keeps happening. So the Israel was no different than the pagan nations. Matter of fact, they were following the lead of the pagan nations. So the pagan nations had no reason to want to submit themselves to the God of Israel, but it was the heart change because they're doing that right?

But it was the heart change to the people of Israel that was going to cause the pagan nations to want to follow the God of Israel. And we see that happening. We're happening in the New Covenant where Paul and the disciples were able to bring the work into the Gentiles and they were able to convert the Gentiles to accept Christ. And so this is the same thing that happens to us.

How we behave, how we treat people, and how we show up shows whether or not we believe. And we have to remember like I don't miss that club like at all. I realized that me being at that point in the stage, I was a very broken human, trying to find fulfillment in other things because I didn't even know how to address the brokenness that I felt, the hurt that I felt, the rejection that I felt at times. And I was looking for affirmation to be able to validate myself in the wrong places.

That's what led me there. I'm grateful for that time because God showed me who He is and redeemed me from that. And so now I can share my story as someone who was a prodigal and provide hope for people who are praying and standing in the gap in a session for friends and family members who might go astray. And I can give them hope that there is a return, right?

It's so I'm grateful for that because God uses all things. No, that's very well said. And I think, you know, what I really gather from that is like this is serious. You say like, your soul is at stake.

And I think sometimes we play around with stuff that ain't really something to play around with. And I've been guilty of that. Like when I think about some of my worst mistakes in life, it's like I just wasn't taking it that serious. And we can kind of walk around with this laissez-faire attitude or mentality with things.

But it's like, no, I'm right at the end of the day. Like everything we do is serious. And you talk about validation. Something that's really big for me is like, I really, I don't like to put myself in situations where I'm allowing other people to validate me because I feel like then you're always a slave to what they want you to do or what they may expect you to be.

And a lot of times that's why people don't change is because they're actually trying to live up to some version of themselves that other people in their past or maybe even in their present expect them to be. And as long as you are a slave to what someone expects you to be, you can never become who God created you to be because God created you to be greater and to be more than what you are when you are in those valleys, so to say. So Aisha, I want to now kind of fast forward to you as a single mom. Now, I kind of read in your bio, it said that you had just quit your job and became an entrepreneur before what you called it as life So can you just walk us through that like that experience for you of finding out that you're a single mom and especially like, you know, have a person having his career, a successful six-figure career in corporate America, working in finance.

So walk away from that job, I'm sure had to be a big decision to become an entrepreneur, but then on the back end of that to be finding out that you were about to be a mom. Can you just tell us about that experience and what that was like for you? Oh my gosh, I was angry at that. Sometimes we get mad at God for our decisions.

So mad at God. So real talk, I was mad at God because I was in corporate, I ended up dealing with workplace bullying. So I dealt with workplace bullying for two and a half years and by the grace of God, God had pulled me out of that club lifestyle a couple of years before, about a year or so before, I started to deal with workplace bullying at about six months before I started to deal with workplace bullying, rededicating my life to Christ. And so when I started to deal with that, I was so grateful to be able to have that faith foundation now at that point because I came back to the Lord.

And I don't know what I would have done if I didn't have it. But in that time, I started to build my business at the phenomenal. And so I ended up writing my first book to learn that time. And so my business was starting to really take off.

I was getting, I would have been featured in essence. What's that featured in essence yet? I don't know if I had been featured as a chef, but I would know I would have been featured in jet, black enterprise. I think the first feature in essence was when I was pregnant.

Yeah, I think it was pregnant. But anyway, I've been featured in a lot of places. So I was starting to get those calls starting to really, everything was taken off. And so I ended up leaving corporate because I could just feel the Lord saying it was time.

It was time. Take that leap. I didn't want to leave. I ended up going half time because the money was good.

So sometimes we get like half listening to God, but that's not really full obedience. That partial obedience. And then it just got miserable for me. Even worse, when I was operating in that partial obedience and I finally left corporate and went into full time entrepreneurship.

And so a couple of months after I left corporate, I ended up getting pregnant. And two months after that, I was about four months pregnant when he was just like, you haven't automated them, get an abortion or a mouth. And I was just like, it was like, when I say it, like it sounds so easy, like the whole process, but it was not easy at all. I ended up choosing my kids.

And I had them and then, you know, became a single mom at four months pregnant. And so I had to just figure it out, you know, it was it was difficult because when we talked before about affirmation and looking for affirmation for other people, this is one of the dangerous things as well. Because when you're looking for looking to validate yourself through your accolades, what you do, what people are saying, the features that you have, like when you have like, when that's gone, right? What do you have when someone utterly rejects you, tells you that you're going to be a terrible mom, your kid, like all these stereotypes over my kids and all these single mom stereotypes over me and told me that I would fail as a entrepreneur and as a mom, and that anybody attached to me would get hurt because all I do is hurt people, like all because I refuse to have an abortion, all of a sudden, that made me an evil person.

But the thing is, when you don't know who you are, you believe that they said people will tell you, even if it's a lie. So that became my identity. So when my kids were born, I just went into this place approving. I wanted to prove that I wasn't going to fail.

I wanted to prove that my that I wasn't going to be a statistic. I wanted to prove that I matter and that my kids mattered. And it ended up destroying my finances. I, you know, I have a foundation in finance.

I also have a certificate in personal financial management. And I mentioned that I had a financial, I have a financial literacy business. And I'm at a finance background, destroying my finances, destroying my credit, all because of emotional spending, hurt, pain, trying to prove, comparing myself to married moms, because I didn't want my kids to miss out. And I wanted to prove that I mattered and ended up falling into this three year depression, shut down my whole business because I was afraid to run my business because I thought that I would hurt the people that I wanted to help.

And I just couldn't do it anymore, because it takes so much effort. Like what am I, and I say this in the book, one of my favorite lyrics from Mariah Carey is the song circles, I think it's on her, a massive patient of me, album, our butterflies, one of the two. But what she said is I painted on a smile with lipstick, put it on a big charade. It's kind of hard to keep pretending it's getting harder every day, right?

And so that was what I was doing. I was painted on a smile with lipstick, acting like everything was okay, showing up, consuming the serve, but I was empty. I was utterly empty at that point. And I'm just going to do it anymore.

I just shut my whole business down and just spent a few years just healing, going to therapy and learning who I was outside of the opinions and approval of other people. You know, you had said that that sounded easy and Jen was in the comments like I didn't sound easy at all. And I would, Jen, like it definitely didn't sound easy. Shout out to everybody in the comments.

Appreciate y'all. And Tranice had just said she wrote down, she commented exactly what I wrote down in my notes that when you don't know who you are, you believe what people tell you, even if it's a lie. I don't know if that's the first time you ever said that, but I'm just telling you, you should say it again. Like when you go speak somewhere, that's a fire line because it's so real.

And so much of your story so far that you've shared, it's so real because, and I think a lot of people can relate. You were in church, you leave the faith, you come back to Christ, you find out you're pregnant and then this automatum, being forced to choose between your kids and a relationship, I guess. And I don't think people talk about this enough because there's all this pressure around abortion and trying to convince people to get abortions and things like that. But nobody really talks about the why.

And I know people will throw out things like, well, what about these very rare situations of rape or incest or something? And it's like, okay, that's like saying why you shouldn't get on the airplane because a plane might go into somebody's house. I'm sure it's happened before, but it's very rare. You don't typically make decisions primarily on rare situations.

But do you think I'm just curious, we don't have to go too far down this path, but I'm just curious based on what you went through with that automatum with abortion. And then now you see where society is going, trying to push people towards abortions. Do you think they're missing something? And what do you think they're missing?

I should really say when they try to force people, what are the things that we're not considering about the woman and how this, like, hey, how important your kids are and just the idea of, I don't know, like you can take that wherever you want. I know that's like an explosive topic. I'm like, I'm like, more where do I start? Because I feel like I'm like, Joe Lewis, there's a car coming out, not at you, but at society.

Yeah. So the funny thing is, and I'm trying to figure out where to start. Let me start here. People don't almost start one person one place and then I'm going to go back to where I want to start.

People don't understand the trauma and the PTSD that somebody went in, deal with after an abortion. Society makes it seem like, oh, because I remember when I was young, people would say, oh, if you get pregnant and you don't want it, just get rid of it. It was just so simple, right? And I just remember that here and now all the time, all the time, not from my family or anything, but like from peers.

And it was interesting that we're kind of indoctrinated in school to be pro, to be pro-vorsions. I'm not even going to play like, I'm just going to call it what it is. Well, not a rebranded to reproductive rights and lumped it in with other things to blind people through marketing tactics, but not, I got aggressive, not the secular. And to piggyback on that, I remember seeing something on social where this one guy, how do you say something like that?

He said that people have to be brainwashed into becoming pro-abortion because if a child looks at an ultrasound, they say that's a baby. So you have to be indoctrinated to believe that when you look at a ultrasound and you see that baby in the womb, you have to be brainwashed to see a clump of cells because even as young as like six weeks old, the baby has human features because it is human. And so we like, and Hitler, I'm going to try not to go on a tangent, but Hitler was so successful in committing genocide because he dehumanized the Jewish people and people no longer saw Jews as human. So if you no longer see people as human, who's going to speak up?

He's marching people to the gas chamber. They're like, it's true. It's true with this. So if we no longer see babies in the womb as human, who's going to stand up and fight for them and say, no, this is a person when they're trying to convince people to abort nine month old children just before they come out the womb.

It makes no sense. And the other piece of it is, and I'll get fired up because this is the whole reason why I ended up releasing navigators. Motherhood is a journey of constant change, but you can always count on little bellies. Little bellies snacks are made with simple organic ingredients.

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Do it's natural. It's possible because the book had been written for about three years before I released it. It is set on my computer, but when Roe v. Wade was overturned and I began to see what the media was saying about abortion, I got fired up because when I tell you what I saw in the media, the media justifying why women needed abortion, it was so they wouldn't be single moms and the children wouldn't have to be raised by single moms.

And you know what type of flashbacks I had in my head? What I was told when I was pregnant, all the limitations that were going to be on my life, all the limitations that were going to be on my children is like, because I'm a single mom, and because they were going to be born to a single mom. But I tell you it was almost verbatim what I heard. I was just like, this book has to get out because these women are going to be convinced by the lies that are amplified, that there is no hope and the only hope, the only, because there's no hope, the only solution is to abort and that's a lie because that's what I was told.

But all I know is that the God I serve is the God to be impossible and the God I serve made a way out of no way for my kids to be born and for me to have everything that I needed. And at that point I knew that I needed to speak up to be able to give these moms hope so they don't make the biggest mistake of their lives by aborting their kids because they do not have hope. And I appreciate that question so much because I think we need to talk more about it because I noticed that when I try to speak up about it on social, all these random people, and this isn't getting back to if you're a Christian and you have a platform, you have to turn out the noise of random people. I would have people coming up in my comments.

I would like have you ever commented on any other post? But then in fact, it's not about Michigan's proposed abortion law, which is now law, constitutional amendment, which is now law legalized in abortion tonight. Must all of a sudden you have a problem with me speaking. No one speaking for these kids, who's speaking for the kids that are getting deported?

And like anything is, like if you look at the history of this, abortion Planned Parenthood was created to eradicate black people. Literally. If you're black, and you support this, like read your history. I'm gonna tell you and thank you for that on this.

And you said it, this is an important topic. You know, these are important things for believers to think through. And I really challenge a believer that even if today, even if you sit in there and you listen to this and you're like, well, I'm pro-choice or I'm pro-abortion or reproductive rights, however you want to call it cool. All right, that's your right to have an opinion where I challenge you is to put your emotion aside and listen to the actual conversation being had because I think what happens is society, the media, the government, they've done such a good job politicizing everything that when people hear certain things that can automatically tune it out because they've been trained, oh, that's from the other side or that's, you know, whatever, whatever.

And it's like, no, we are talking about the faith. We're talking from the standpoint as believers and I believe as a Christian that you should be able to listen to something to be convinced of something or not like the Bible says to study the show yourself approved. And the problem with us, I believe is that we've stopped studying on these topics and we've replaced God's Word with the word of the media or our favorite celebrity or our politicians that we can't always trust. And so we are being really bamboozled.

And I'll use this example. You know, sometimes to me, things are deep, but things could be very simple too, right? And you said something, you said people actually have to be brainwashed and to become in pro-abortion. And I believe that from this standpoint, you know, a lot of the things that's happening in the world today is people trying to convince you that an apple is not an apple, right?

There are things that you've going your entire life. So let's just go with the baby situation. You know, when you go to the doctor and you get the first ultrasound or the pregnancy test, you, they say you're pregnant, you're having a baby. Okay, cool.

So is this a baby or is not? Because you tell me I'm pregnant, right? Then if you go to all the checkups between, you know, whatever month, one to month, nine, whatever, you got all these checkups at every checkup. Oh, that's the baby.

That's their nose. And I don't even have kids, but I have enough. I got about 17 pieces and nephews and I'm the oldest and I. So I know enough about kids to know that even kids in the womb have personalities.

So when you look at some babies, they twist and turn and some kicking. Oh, he was an easy pregnancy. She was this. And when that baby is born, guess what?

My man who was kicking and turning all in your womb at two years old, he could color on the walls and flipping the house upside down. That was literally him in there. So it's one thing for someone to tell me that they are pro this and that and I can respect differences of opinions. But it's another thing to tell me that that ain't a baby.

So it's like, look, if you, you know, I'm, I'm, I am pro life regardless of what your opinion is out there. But what I'm saying is that have your opinion, but don't tell me that that ain't just let your opinion be that you want to take life away from a child. Don't let your opinion be based on trying to convince me that ain't a baby. Here's the last thing I'm gonna say.

You talked in the beginning. Yeah, yeah, I'm still there. So you go ahead, though. Go with your part.

I was gonna say, when a woman has a miscarriage, does anybody, everybody feels bad for her? Because she lost the baby. Because she lost the baby. That's heavy.

Like, like, and so all we're saying is like, don't tell me that ain't like, like you said, when, and listen, when a woman has a miscarriage, it is super emotional. Women around me have had them. In my fact, it is emotional. When there's a stillborn child that is emotional.

We call it a baby. We literally, one of my brothers was born, stillborn. We had a funeral. I went to the funeral.

It was obviously closed casket. He has a name. He has an obituary. Don't tell me that ain't a baby.

And so that's all we're saying is like, don't let the world convince you that we're got. All right, I got to say this, and then we're gonna move on. Let me say this. Trini said we replaced the word.

That's it. We've gotten away from the word, not just this topic, but many agree. Um, Jen, thank you, Jen, and Jen says there's so much contradiction. I want to say this.

I think this should be said. Aisha, you started off and said that the parable in the Bible that led you back to Christ was the parable about the seed sower and what type of seeds there were. When you look at the importance of that parable, the importance is about the seed because the seed is what it will be if it gets sown into the proper ground. And it don't say that that seed ain't that it says it wasn't in the right ground.

What am I saying? It's not that it ain't a baby is that you didn't let it produce where God was going to produce it. You took the seed away. That was a seed that had a purpose.

And when you take a seed away, then you can kill the seed. You could kill the purpose in that seed, but that don't mean it ain't a seed. And so I just think it's amazing how for you that the story in the Bible that brought you back to Christ was about a seed. And then you had to choose the seed in your womb over validation.

Wow. It's just amazing. It's amazing. Right how God works as you were talking, it was just hitting me like in for me, Ayesha, it's like I think we complicate things and I also think we want we want going back to that validation.

We want the world to validate us so bad. It's like, oh man, I don't I see this for Christian. I see so much fear in Christians. I can't talk about this.

They're not going to like me with my podcast. They're not going to listen, man. I'm sorry. I can't make decisions based on that type of stuff being accepted by people.

I want y'all to listen to the show. Great. But I can't sell myself for this show for social media followers for a job like I cannot do it. All right, Ayesha.

Thank you for engaging that portion of the topic. I know that was it's important. It is. Let me say this.

So you talk about your book, Navigate Me Impossible, a survival guy for single moms from pregnancy through the first year of motherhood. What I want to ask you, babe, coming off of the conversation we just had. We hear so much negativity about being a single mother. There may be some truth to a lot of those things.

But can you talk about the lessons that came from being a single mother from choosing your children? Did you have twins? Yeah. Okay, look you get me started.

I go from I got a different size of my personality. I get borderline church in here right now because you talking about like it was I can't even you but God gave you double for my trouble. So y'all see how easily this could go? Like are you serious?

All right, I just need you to talk about the blessings that came from being a single mother and making that decision. Like when I tell you it's all funny. Let me start here. I remember before I got pregnant.

I was like a planning session planning for the new year and back in 2014, I was planning for the new year 2015. And I remember like around that time praying the prayer job as because at that time my business was starting to increase and I wanted to just be able to reach more people from and like to just help them transform their finances because one of the things I didn't share was when I was 12 I got teased from one of my neighbor at close and it let me was able to start making money. I began to spend it, racked up a whole credit, a whole bunch of credit card debt because I was chasing validation and I was trying to get people's approval by high address. So I was just praying for God to just allow me to share that message about how your network is your work is not depending on your network.

So you don't have to try and go into debt to impress other people. So I just wanted to make that message be enough for a while. And so when I ended up getting credit right when my business was starting to take off, I thought like I was just like that, did you hear the prayer? Because I don't think you did because I was talking about my business and I don't know how this was about to impact my life.

He already told me he got me. So like what is this going to happen? Because this is me. I have to give up on my dreams and everything.

But I realized some years later and I remember I said I never foretold me this. Like when I was crying in the audience I was like I don't know how I'm gonna do this. Like I don't know what I'm gonna do. And she told me and she said just think about how to get a hands-on message.

I was like you know how you hear something you're like that gives you hope but you're still like stuff. I mean you're trying to hear it. You're trying to hear it really because I'm just like you're not hearing but I really don't. But it was something that gave me a little bit of hope.

But years later I realized that I was asking for God to enlarge my territory. I never would have expected that it would have come in a form of twins. But that territory in terms of that financial literacy, that economic empowerment message, I'm able to take this to marginalize groups because let's tell them what it is single mothers can be marginalized. They can be marginalized in society, marginalized in church, marginalized in a workforce.

But now I get to give this message of hope and redemption to them because in the church they can be like I remember my kids but one of the churches that I went to almost to indicate my kids because I'm a single mom. They said we don't understand your we don't know if you take your faith walk seriously. So I'm the one who chose out to abort but now I'm getting accused of not having a real relationship with Christ and then we're gonna take it out of my kids and say you're not allowed to dedicate your kids to the Lord. And so because I went through all this stuff I was just like let me show these single moms that they're loved by Christ.

Let me tell these single moms that let me tell these single moms that they don't have to be broke. Let me tell these single moms that their kids are not mistakes because we typically hear that like no your child it has a purpose and plan attached to it because God is the one who is a giver of life and God is a taker of life and if God put that child in your womb even if the situation is not ideal it's because he has a purpose for you and a purpose for that child. And for me the biggest blessing of being a single mom other than being a mom to my kids I realized that I've been able to see God in a deeper way. I've changed in ways that I never even thought that I needed to change.

I remember one day somebody asked me, barista asked me one day he said what's the hardest part of being a mom. And at first I was about to say sleeping last but then I was just like God that's not it. I said being the person who I can be proud of when my kids say I look up to you or I want to be like you. I said that's the biggest part for me.

It's literally what I want my kids to become not because I want them to be just like me but I want them to be able to look at me and say she loves the Lord and she is doing everything she can to walk in a ways of Christ. That's what I want my kids to do. I want my kids to honor God. Love the Lord with all their heart, mind, soul and body and all those ways acknowledge Him.

That's what I want for my kids. I have to do that. As I have chased God because I want to be an example for my kids, I have been able to see God show up and be faithful in so many ways that I never would have seen had I not been a single mom. I've been able to see hope on mom's faces who have chosen life for their kids but now their face and now they're abandoned.

I'm able to say you know what, there's hope. This isn't the end of the story. This isn't the end of the story for your child. You don't have to be a statistic and neither does your child to double as a liar.

Because of I've walked this place, this path, I'm able to give hope and encouragement to other people while also seeing that if you allow yourself to be defined by your circumstances, you're never going to be able to move forward. To be honest, I do all this work for single moms, but I don't because I know that God is a God to the Father. He's a father to the Father that sees the funeral widows. I remember somebody at church said single moms are the new widows.

So I know that my kids have a dad. It's God. And so I have great family support. So I don't feel like a single mom.

My identity is an end single motherhood. But I remember somebody told me she was just like, but if you want to reach these people, that's what they see themselves as. And you have the ability to take them and it's coming to me. She didn't say it this way, but this is the way it's coming to me right now in terms of like a word picture.

I have the ability to leave these moms where the wilderness of shame, abandonment, rejection, hurt, betrayal, the church is turning their backs on them. People turn their backs on them. The world trying to lace them with stereotypes to put burdens over them. I have a chance to help them to lead.

I have a chance to help lead them out of the wilderness to the promised land that God has promised them. But it's just a matter of believing that it's possible. I love it. And I love that you really draw from your faith in it because I think what we need to realize is that life in these type of things, life isn't always perfect, but that's where Christ comes in.

The Bible says in your weakness, my strength is made perfect. And what some of us do is we get weak and we give up on God, not realizing that the strength of God is not truly seen until you are weak because when you make it from your weakness and through your weakness, you know it wasn't in of yourself. And that's why by faith and through experience, a lot of us have so much confidence and trust in God because we have been at the bottom and we know what it feels like to doubt. Like you said, you had a three-year bout with depression.

We know what it's like to struggle to lose our identity. And we know that it wasn't us that brought us out of it. So I love that you said that. Shout out to Tranice in the comments and she said, hey, the enemy tried to stop God's double.

Like that right there was so crazy to me. The fact that God bless you with twins through all of this. Jen says, I always hate it that I had to be defined by the term single. I feel that I had that script on my fridge for years.

Amen. And I think, so your point, we have to be careful how we allow ourselves to be identified in this world today. They want to identify you so many different ways and marginalize you. But I think you have to be careful of that because also single isn't permanent.

That's the other thing. So it's like be careful, categorizing and following and allowing yourself to mentally fall into the category. It's okay. I know we talk in categories.

That's cool. But to mentally and emotionally allow yourself to view yourself a certain way, it's temporary. That's like if you broke, that ain't forever. You can make some changes and God can open some doors.

So before I get you out of here, I want to be respectful of your time. The last thing I wanted to ask you about was the role finances play in your blog and everything you do. I'll allow you to kind of shout those out and not allow you, but let's have you a shout those out before you go my bad. I don't even know why the word allow came out.

I'll allow you and my stuff. I promise I'm not on that. I don't know why I said it. But I do want you to talk about how people can reach in with things before you go.

But just can you briefly talk about finances? Obviously you have the education and finances. But what role does it play in the work that you do today in helping single moms and why is finances an important aspect to that? Finances is huge because and I think that you can't really strip faith for finances.

I think because we have God and his stewards over finances just as moms like we're stewards over our children. God chose us for that. And I believe that the resources are God. So number one, how we steward our finances shows how we trust that right.

That's number one. But at the second point is finances matter. Like you don't worship your finances, but finances allow you to pay your bills. Let me say it like this.

Let me tell you a story because I love stories because I think they help illustrate a point. So I know somebody who was raised by a single mom. His single mom, his mom made six figures a year. But she worked all the time.

And so he used to say that he never wanted for anything. But whatever he would look up at his works games, whatever he would look at his assemblies anyway, he would always stand up. He would always stand up and see his mom. He never did.

And he told and everybody told me that he would have traded that stuff to have his mom be with him. And I've heard this story over and over and over and over again from people who were raised by single moms, even single moms where they weren't broke. Because how you manage your money ends up impacting your time. Because I think his mom worked multiple jobs.

I know other women other people who were raised by single moms in their miles work multiple jobs to be able to give them the things that they thought that their kids wanted. And so just imagine if you manage your money in a way where you got control of your spending and you realize you didn't need that second job after all. Because you began to manage your money differently. What if you began to look at your skill set and realize that you can take a different job maybe with less hours and make more money?

What if you can give it up over time just because you manage your money better? What if you are always so stressed out because you manage your money better? Because guess what? Financial stress increases inflammation which leads to heart attack, heart disease and stroke and brain algorithms.

So financial stress can impact your health. Financial stress also impacts parenting. Financial stress has actually been linked to harsh parenting. People who are feeling financial stress are more likely to spend their kids, yell at their kids and abuse their kids.

Financial stress. So just imagine if managing your money allows you to reclaim your time, have less stress, have more health and create more memories with your children. That's why I love finances so much. That's so well said.

You know so I think a lot of times Christian struggled to talk about money. We talk about money a lot on this show because this is a faith in business show and it's very challenging to talk about business without talking about finances. But for me it's similar to what you said. Like money gets a bad rap.

So many things in society today like they get a bad rap because of the marketing behind how they're marketed. I give you an example since you like stories too. This ain't really a story. I call myself example man on this show.

I had never been to Vegas. First time I went to Las Vegas I think was 2006. I went to 2006 back in 2011 again. And I remember in 2006 one of my homeboy, you know, really best friend.

You know we were in high school man especially high school college. Me and my boy Kale you couldn't you know separate us from each other. And then he moved to the Philippines a whole different country. So like we literally been far from each other but that's still my brother.

He was here in 2022. But the point is I went sidebar. I remember his mom sent us on a trip to Vegas when he graduated college. And to give a little context this happened during a time where I was really getting serious about God my last year of college.

So it's kind of like you know like I'm like yo I've never been to Vegas but I only heard about Vegas bro. And I ain't really like from what I heard I ain't really trying to go there. And then I kind of told him like I don't you know you are he knew what I do what I don't do. Man we went to Vegas had the best time in the world.

Wasn't wild and out. Wasn't and then I realized like oh it's good food. It's an art show over here. Whatever it was exciting.

So what's my point? Vegas isn't since city. Vegas is what you make it when you go there. And from talking about being a single mom to anything else that we want to address a lot of times we allow society to define what something is because we don't want to experience it and curate the customized experience for ourselves.

But what I love about what you said whether it's money or whatever else when it comes to money you don't have to love money. You don't have to have the relationship with money that the world tells you to have with money. You don't have to let money separate you from God. But when you truly understand money as a tool and a resource and how it works you also won't become a slave to it where it is making you spend all your money on Christmas for your kids to have whatever game that they're going to throw around and they don't even have a college account.

I'm constantly telling people I will give you $50 for your kid's college tuition before I ever give you a $50 gift because that doesn't make financial sense to me for kids just to have a million gifts. But when you truly understand finances you could put it in its proper place. I love the Chinese thank you for all your comments she said single isn't permanent. A-men is single relationally single financially single socially to energy surround a single it isn't permanent.

Oh God that's where A-men A to the man. Jen also said that was confirmation when you talk when you talk the story about time. So I wish I want to be respectful getting your time and let you get out of here before you go. Can you just tell people how to find you how to get in touch with you and you know like where to find your book?

Yes yes yes so you can find my book over at Amazon or if you want to sign copy head over to navigatingtheimpossiblebook.com if you want to sign copy but if you want to pick it up on Amazon it's on Amazon too. You can also connect with me on YouTube and I see right there Aisha Jay Taylor on YouTube and also on Instagram at F and phenomenal as well as on my blog F and phenomenal.com and if you want to hit me up via email you can email me at hello at F and phenomenal.com I'd love to hear from you. Oh I can hear you is it my comment? Thank you so much now like for five for 10 seconds we're ever watching that I'm going to get them look crazy.

I think I'm going to cut that out and repost it of me just looking stupid. I'm going to start doing bloopers because I'll be having bloopers on this show. But thank you so much for your time. I'll be looking forward to whatever you have going on next and even to watch God as you continue to grow and evolve and see how God uses you as you go when he you know when he blesses you to be married and so on and so forth as your children grow.

Just much love so you love your spirit and everything you stand for and thank you so much for being here today. Thank you so much for having me. I really appreciate it. All right you have a good night.

You too. Thanks. All right. Yo guys people y'all know what's up man.

Hey Jen like I don't know why y'all let me embarrass myself before she got up out of here. Let me take a sip of my what I'm drinking today sweet tea. Take a sip of my tea and then we bought the clothes to show out. I got some things to say about Aisha what we talked about.

Also I got a couple things to say she mentioned something that I posted today actually on Facebook and I was just ironic. She didn't directly mention it but something she talked about referred to it and then I got a new segment that I want to introduce before I get out of here it's called I be wondering so let me take a sip of my sweet tea and then we gonna jump into it. All right Jen said she was about to tell me of course you were you thought it was your phone it was your phone you probably you don't even have an iPhone do you. All right before we get out of here a couple things I want to say thank you again I you should tailor.

Y'all check out her book. I love man it's just always a blessing to do these interviews people have stories man and I get so inspired listening to people's stories. It is just I don't know for me it's like it's literally life to hear people's stories and their ups and downs and their successes like people's smart man like she got like five degrees from Duke and U of M so it's like like you're saying like you you literally never know just from looking at people and hopefully one of the things you take away from this podcast is this show is really about being united by faith and during the time in the world where everyone is so divisive based on your race or your politics or the world looks for reasons for you to hate each other. Jesus Christ is our opportunity to find how we are united and how we are the same that's why you see interviews and hear interviews on this show from men from women from white from black.

I'm looking for a Chinese an Indian if you love God if you are a believer if you're doing great things in the kingdom of God we should be able to come together and with Jesus Christ as our common ground our differences are minimized in my opinion so I don't even understand people who are like so politicized especially like racially man they got us so charged up racially the world literally has us treat and for me it's kind of like I just sit back and observe things and I'm like all right you know it might be some truth to that maybe a little truth to that yes some racism out here yeah these people hate these people but man come on now you ain't never let a hater stop you from going to the club why do we let things stop us from doing everything positive in our lives I don't want to meet that person because I have one bad experience with a person like them or they from that side of town or they look like that guess what man when you talk to these people and you sit down and listen to their stories that's why I'm always willing to listen I'm always willing to talk because I when I see a person I never think I have them figured out whenever I see people I always be like I'm like oh what don't I know there's more to be discovered more to be explored that's why I engage people in the comments on social media when I ask a question I like to know what people think because I know that there is more to you than meets the eye even if you cute even if you kind of struggling with your looks you know we don't all look good you know we ain't all cute I might be struggling on a certain day even when I'm struggling is more to me there is more to you man more to you never let it hate it I you should we know that you ain't never let it hate to stop you from going to the club because you was going five days a week don't know how you did it kept you in shape that's why you was like I'm about to go boo this I'm doing yoga because it was that club diet but listen a couple things we get out here I want to say this first and foremost it's a single mother's you are valuable your children matter I want to commend you for those of you who are single mothers because you had to make a choice between a relationship and a child that relationship automate them giving you that abortion as an automatum I want to commend the single mothers that were afraid and did it scared that cried in the ultrasound room like Aisha that didn't know where that next meal might come from the single mothers that had to be on government assistance you had to go to the wick office you had to get the the life cereal and the milk and the cheese and whatever else come with it so the mothers out there that needed to get the christmas package from the charity from toys for tots for from the gut fellas boxes I want to commend you for doing the tough thing I want to commend you for not taking the easy way out and you should be better appreciated I think sometimes we try to glorify the idea of being a single mother in a way that causes more people to be single mothers but that's because we ain't giving you credit for really what you should be getting credit for you really should be giving credit for making that decision because you know you was nervous you know you didn't know what to do and you knew that that man was trying to manipulate you and you loved him and he gave you a ultimatum he wanted you to get rid of your kids to make his life more comfortable because he said he couldn't do it because he said he already got kids because he said he ain't know where the money was coming from I commend you single mothers for not letting a weak man cause you to kill your children letting a weak man cause you to give up on god I commend you for that I commend the single fathers who've had to step up there are various reasons that a father has to get step has to step up and take care of the kids too and so many times bro you get overlooked and you feel like you operate in the world that you don't quite understand you had to do it scared too I commend you I commend the people who made a mistake in the past who maybe made their own choice with that ultimatum but decided to repent and give your life to god to give your life to christ you deserve the credit too I know it was a hard decision you might be dealing with some things you might be really stuck in your past haunt you and even when we talk about topics like this you take it as judgment but I promise you it's not and we talk about challenging topics to explore them to help each other so that iron can sharpen iron so that the next person will make the right choice but if you were single mother out there you had to make that decision or you not a single mother because you did make that decision and you repent and gave your life to christ I commend you too so the people out there who made that decision who gave up their children who sacrificed their lives because you didn't know any better now is a good time of your life if you haven't already to give your life to christ because the hurt and the pain and the depression and the things that you dealing with that they won't put on the commercial it ain't gonna go viral they don't want to talk about it nobody's gonna share that message they're gonna shut it down the algorithm gonna stop it so you're being quiet but you you also can repent and give your life to Jesus if you made that decision you don't have to live in that pain for the rest of your life you might regret it for the rest of your life but god has a way of blessing you even when you don't deserve it none of us truly do none of us truly deserve the grace that god grants us you think you feel bad because you think the decision you made is worse than everyone else what I often say to single mothers is like you had a hard situation because everybody could see your sin growing in your belly then they call it a sin but it's not really a sin just because something is a result of the sin doesn't mean it is a sin your child ain't a mistake so people mistreat you because they can see what they perceive as you're seeing growing in your belly you can't hide it so in order to hide it many many of these women make the decision many of you make the decision to abort it and what you're really aborting is the embarrassment or the disgrace or the opinion of others but here's the thing a lot of us we are in our scene and we don't got to carry it around it don't grow for everyone to see it so I don't judge you I don't hold it against you I'm not not god I'm not here to condemn you but I hope you are convicted by the message to give your life to Christ and to turn away and more importantly if you know a woman that's pregnant right now going back and forth about that decision hopefully you know the right words to say to her to encourage her you know they say misery loves company and I think that causes a lot of people who have made those shameful mistakes cause them to go out and promote those mistakes so that other people can do it so that they can be comfortable with their decision but the fact of the matter is they're not really comfortable that's why they're so angry they're not happy that's why they're pushing death these are the messages that a lot of Christians are afraid to talk about because we live in a world where people will take everything away from you they will block you and shadow ban you and maybe you lose your job or whatever because you simply spoke life imagine a world where telling somebody to have a baby is a bad thing considered you know intrusion of rights but if you tell me to go in the diet you can make a commercial for that you know if you tell me to whiten my teeth there's commercials for that how about here growth there's commercials for that we live in a society where people are able to promote any and everything except life that should that should concern you that should be disturbing when you live in a society where simply to tell somebody that that's life you know specifically late-term abortion concerns me because you mean to tell me if you're not most pregnant and you have an abortion oh that's not a baby but if two days later that baby is born we celebrate you because that's a beautiful life I often too think about minorities as a black person and this is one of the things that really got me got my attention about this topic back in 2013 2014 when I had first thought saw a statistic in New York I think 2013 or 2014 was the first time in New York where more black babies were aborted than born imagine that imagine we are only minorities not the exclude my other brothers and sisters white Chinese Indian all y'all you know what I'm saying like I'll tell y'all too but my people in particular we complain a lot about being marginalized and being minorities and not having a voice and needing you know other people to champion us but what if we killed all our voices what if we eliminated them because we simply were uncomfortable we couldn't afford it or we're in a challenging situation I know everybody won't agree with me either but I'm of the belief that you don't have to why is it so offensive to hear an opposing view if it's rational if it's spoken in love if it's spoken in truth if it's sincerely a soul that's just concerned about the state of our society and the people therein and the messages being pushed to our children see I hear that black people more were aborted than born in New York imagine how over time you can eliminate even just the idea of being a minority if you just burp the ones that are there killing our next presidents our next LeBron James and Michael Jordan's our next doctors our next lawyers what's that about that I'll concern you when the original purpose of Planned Parenthood and abortion was literally not figuratively to eliminate the black race and then we sit back and we champion that but we hate white people and hate America because it was birthed in slavery not to say all white people were birthed in slavery don't take that wrong what I'm simply saying is there are things that are going on in our world today that should concern you and should cause you to turn back to Christ and should cause you to want to encourage your brother or your sister next to you whenever I find myself super emotional about a topic to the point where I can't even hear an opposing view I know that there's something wrong with me and not necessarily the person I disagree with because I'm also irrational out of control that I can't listen to an opposing view listen not judging you I'm not telling you going to hell this is about life and I commend single mothers and single fathers because you are taking on the task of nurturing life our future and it's not an easy job that's why many don't want it but you you went forward with it and I think you need to be commended for that guys people I hope and pray that today shows bless you before I get out of here I like to just end on a like note there's no good way to make this transition this is a very random thing that I was thinking about this morning when I woke up and you are going to maybe think I'm a little crazy thank you so much I appreciate that appreciate you as a guest today you also said some very important before I get there you know you talk about how money management saves time I sound even though if you know I asked the question today randomly on social media and I asked people what is the perfect life balance like what is the perfect life balance between a person that works too hard and loses time with their family and a person that's lazy and the family might be like yo pops get out go get a job do something and what it really came down to was the perfect life balance is balanced we live in the world we got to balance a lot of things but money money management and that's why we talk a lot about business and finances on this show when you properly manage your money you save time you also put yourself in a position where you don't always need money so you can make decisions that are not based on money a lot of the compromises that people make in the world today if you ask them why they did it is for money a lot of people who are in prison or a lot of people who are out there doing crimes right now are likely doing it for money so if you better manage your money you can save your time literally because you won't have to go do time you can save your relationships you can save your family you can save yourself by allowing yourself to be saved by Jesus Christ and what do I mean by that there are a lot of people that can't even fully live for Christ because they are in constant compromise for money and I know money is important you feel me I usually like I know money is important and that's why I talk about it so before we get out of here I woke up from a dream okay don't judge me and let me look at my I wrote it down okay I woke up from dream I had just ran up thought I was like I just beat this segment is called I'd be wondering so I think at the end of the show and yes I'm bilingual I speak English and I didn't realize Ibonics was a real language until I realized how quickly I go in and out of it and it's a true talent and skill set so if you speak Ibonics please tell people from now on it you're bilingual because everybody can't speak Ibonics either that's the whole thing about it that's what makes it so dope everybody can speak it some people are like what you're salty what's going on anyway I woke up out of a dream and I asked myself fan uh jim you say you'll jim you learn any bonics look you're gonna be fluent by the time you get done listening to the show so this segment is called I'd be wondering I think I'm a who knows if there's gonna be a real thing or not in the future but I may start sharing just stuff that I be wondering before we get out of here because I'd be wondering a lot of stuff I'd be wondering like are the people in my dreams like the extras because I had some extras in my dream yesterday you know it's like in a movie like you got the main characters and then extras in the background and I asked myself because I'd be seeing extras that I don't recognize so I'd just be wondering like are these real people or did I make them look like are these actually real people walking to earth somewhere or did I just literally create a human being in my mind I'd be wondering then I also was like yo if I'm gonna be making cameos in your dream I feel like I need a check like like listen fam like if I'm if I'm making cameos in your dream I need a check I'm not about all this acting for free extras get paid so if anybody if I ever made a cameo in your dream for whatever reason hopefully something very good and positive by the grace of God if I'd have made a cameo in your dream I need a royalty check bro you can't expect me just to be popping up acting and and and you know I'm saying like doing all that and you ain't paying all right let's see what I used to say I didn't know salty was a part of your bonnets I used to say that listen how you should you learn something new every day listen to this show you got the best of all worlds a day you were a guest and you actually got to learn something that's a blessing what happened to what in the world all right jin let me let me say this before I go the segments are coming back but I need to do video intros when I went to video I got all these audio like song intros for my segments but um I have no videos for it so I thought about that we're gonna still do what in the world maybe this should have been a what in the world segment maybe you popped up to tell me you know what I like that I used to maybe I popped up to tell you to listen to my podcast listen with that saying with that I can talk people with that say it not saying I appreciate you all listening today thank you again I should tell you like for being our guest on episode 192 of inspired guys people to podcast navigating the impossible please do please do um check us out on instagram check us out that's inspired guys people also on youtube at inspire guys people and tell us what you think of the show please share the show um as we're trying to continue to grow video I'm be real child it's not easy like and it's crazy because all right so for the video folks who may see this and maybe you don't listen to the audio show people like jin who've always listened to the audio show they kind of listen to me make this decision to go to video at some point last year in the middle of the year towards the end and it's challenging it's way easier just to do audio even though audio is challenging being consistent doing videos at another level and you know I'm just going I'm just showing up every day that's my approach now you got to deal with all these different you know how many places I'm up late loading and posting and the reason I talk about this is because if you're out there and you want to start a passion project or a business or anything like when you get into any entrepreneurial um you know I can't even think of the next word situation entrepreneurial project I don't know whatever I don't know here we go I can talk when you are an entrepreneur of any sort then you got to realize that it's going to be tough it's not going to be easy everybody tries to glamorize everything romanticize and make it seem like it's just easy to do but what I literally believe I believe that one of the number one keys to success is simply because if you show up every day eventually somebody that's been ignoring you they might be like all right let me see what he's talking like what is this about what's she talking about eventually somebody who hated you like that you just showing up every day to come be like okay look you know what he made a good point right there she made a good point so consistency also builds character because in order to be consistent you have to be willing to endure the good and the bad because guess what when I post a video on YouTube sometimes it get 900 views sometimes it gets 200 views and sometimes it gets two views and that's just how we're working the beginning when you're growing a platform from scratch right and so I'm just a few months into having a YouTube channel that I'm actually consistently uploading and trying to grow and so I understand that this isn't easy this isn't just about hey follow me I got a million followers look how dope I am it's like no there's a grind to it and I like to talk about it so that the individuals listening to this show know that when you sign up to start something it is a process we have literally said that from episode one of this show and the only thing I try to do is be true to what I'm talking about and even when it gets tough for me and I'm like yo this the process bro you in the process so whatever is on the other side of the work that I'm putting in and the seeds that I'm planning it's gonna grow and I don't want y'all to think whenever I get to the other side of whatever God does with this platform I don't then want to come out and just be like everybody else who everybody's a guru and an expert once they you know already successful it's like yeah bro but you want talking like that when you have 56 followers you start talking about that when you're videoing a viral where you got this one opportunity and I think the problem with that mentality is that you are so far away from everyone at that point that people can't really not that they can't relate to you or you don't have value once you're already super successful but it's like it don't feel real it feel like that's just you but anybody who listened to this show we've been going for over four years if you go back to episode one and listen I always tell people we have so many people who have listened to every episode and that's a blessing to me when you listen to every single episode I literally have people who have done that and the thing you get to see is where I was at like I've I've made business deals I've taken promotions I've made tough decisions about my career I've started new project things I've released music it's like so much happens during the process but don't give up allow God just like that baby allow that baby to be born because God is working something out in that child in that womb you don't know what God is going to do some of us make our reality the only reality and the thing that look it may be true right now you're in a tough spot right now you live in the hood or right now you don't have the money and right now you surround it by people who are not like minded don't let that be your permanent mindset like we said with single mom single mom is temporary bro that ain't something that got to be forever and the thing with us is we keep taking temporary titles and making them permanent so it's like I'm broke I'm struggling I'm this I'm not successful like oh that's temporary fam don't allow something temporary to be etched in stone bro you could change that like you could change that so so don't allow something that could be changed to stop you yeah it might be tough on day one when you find out you pregnant I'm sure if you're a single parent it's tough bro but if you endure you're gonna have a lot of fun with them kids they're gonna get on your nerves they're gonna do good in school you're gonna let a smile they're gonna just look just like you you're gonna like dressing them up for Christmas and taking them places it's a lot of blessings you ride yourself of when you don't allow yourself to go through the process and it's in the process where we are refined when God is sharpening us he's building our character building our integrity giving us experience and opportunity to grow and some of us never grow because we stay in the same spot and we never allow ourselves to try something new to go through a process because we are afraid of the unknown well I call it the hope of the unknown the hope of the unknown is the faith in the fact that God is in control and even when I don't know something I have hope that the one in control is gonna lead me to a place a destination where he desires me to be that is good for me that makes me better that is what God is all about. Jen says she never missed episode she doesn't Jen I appreciate you being a faithful listener and appreciate just the beautiful thing about this show y'all don't understand is I get to meet the guests and talk to them and keep relationships going sometimes but also with a lot of the listeners who are faithful listeners we have conversations and topics come up and we end up having podcast topics that become real life topics something I talk about in the podcast becomes something that became a part of your real life and people reach out and that's a family man inspire guys people as a family. Aisha says it took me almost 10 months to be obedient to the Lord and stop your start your youtube channel took me longer than that I don't know. It's so many days now I feel like I don't feel like doing it I'm forcing myself but each time I show up I feel better that is what it is all about that's what it's all about.

I feel that Jen said what if single isn't temporary that's okay too God will be done for sure like whatever guys will be that's an excellent point like you know Paul wouldn't marry so I'm not here to I definitely don't disagree with that I think that's a great point. Aisha says the symbol is when you finally took it took your channel um seriously amen I think it was like July for me last year and let's see Jen says I don't want kids I have my son and being a mom was my favorite oh you didn't want kids and being and you had your son and being a mom was your favorite job ever. I think that's an amazing comment to end today show him. Listen y'all be blessed man again check us out on Instagram on youtube at inspire guys people really everywhere inspire guys people just google it and you'll find us thank you so much for listening I appreciate the love the support and we got more interviews coming up baby we coming right back next week with a couple of dope interviews I'm excited to talk to people we got international stuff happening we bringing people from other countries on here and we're going to keep trying to build up the kingdom of God through talking about faith and business learning these stories and connecting the dots with the goal of finding yourself in the story every time a guest comes on this show I look for myself in the story there's always something that guy can do for you today's show was about single moms but there were so many principles that were biblical that I found myself in the story I hope you find yourself too yeah I bless you I love you and y'all have an amazing amazing amazing man