Ep. 209: When You Crave Love but Fear It | Disorganized Attachment, Trauma & Healing with God

Welcome back beautiful friend! Do you find yourself craving love and connection while simultaneously fearing intimacy and vulnerability? Do relationships feel emotionally exhausting, confusing, or unpredictable? In this episode, we’re diving deep into disorganized attachment—also known as fearful-avoidant attachment—and how unresolved trauma can impact the way we connect with others, ourselves, and God. Disorganized attachment often develops when the people who were supposed to provide safety and comfort were also a source of fear, inconsistency, neglect, or emotional pain. As a result, the nervous system learns to associate connection with danger, creating a painful cycle of longing for love while simultaneously fearing it. Together we’ll explore how trauma affects the nervous system, why survival responses show up in relationships, and how God can begin healing deep attachment wounds. You’ll learn practical tools for emotional regulation, renewing your mind with Scripture, and creating safety in both your body and your relationships. Most importantly, you’ll discover that your attachment wounds do not define you. Through Christ, healing is possible, peace is possible, and secure connection is possible. 📖 1 Corinthians 14:33 “For God is not a God of confusion but of peace.” 📖 Romans 8:38-39 “Nothing can separate us from the love of God.” 📖 Psalm 46:1 “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.” 📖 Isaiah 41:10 “Fear not, for I am with you.” If this episode encouraged you, take a moment to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend. Your support helps more women discover hope, healing, and freedom through Christ. Remember, friend: your past may explain your struggles, but it does not determine your future. God is capable of bringing healing, safety, and restoration to even the deepest attachment wounds. ❤️ You are so loved, seen, and valued more than you can imagine! XO, Melanie Register for my FREE Workshop, From Survival Mode to Peace —-> https://a84a-melaniechavezllc.systeme.io/survivaltopeace The 3 Ways to Work With Me: 1. Rest & Restore Membership: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfh-Lv5s7oryOh9pOzKpKbtH3kzE9_eDbKRZecYmN_o_7Xc8Q/viewform?usp=send_form 2. Surrender to Heal Academy: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfLcT3gcPlXXeqJLE8A2Dcj2YH9yTQ_lwknEYNyBTp-Vw8zZA/viewform 3. 1:1 Coaching (High-Level Support): https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe8_XG262EIK4GXM2M9y04v9eEOCg2nqyGJNbmAdvge-W2HWg/viewform Download the Nervous System Reset Guide and begin your healing journey today : https://a84a-melaniechavezllc.systeme.io/nervoussystem Grab a Nervous System Reset Session spot- only 5 available! Private, 60 min. Nervous System Reset Session- learn about the nervous system, practical tools when you feel triggered, personalized 7 day reset plan to calm your body, and more! https://square.link/u/aaFrw3ka?src=sheet If you have been blessed by the podcast please consider supporting us by buying me a coffee! You can do that here: buymeacoffee.com/christianwxn Grab the greens , mushroom coffee, & supplements I talk about here: https://www.LiveGood.com/MelanieChavez Email me: [email protected] Come join our SKOOL COMMUNITY, Women Healing with God: https://www.skool.com/christian-women-healing-trauma-9505 Join our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1C4Hg525Pv/?mibextid=wwXIfr Follow me on Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@christianwomenhealing?_t=ZT-8vOAjTfaicw&_r=1 Grab my 50 life changing journal prompts for healing here: https://a84a-melaniechavezllc.systeme.io/journalprompts Grab the vibration plate I have shared about on the podcast: https://amzn.to/4dMVu2d * Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/iros-young/a-perfect-day License code: AXTAJ6GP05MYQKZ1 Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/andrey-rossi/seize-the-day License code: 3TUZ76SCPAWKFBWA ** Some of the links above are affiliate links, which means when you purchase I receive a small commission. My advice and opinions of any products are always my own and I never share products I haven’t tested and tried on my own. *** Disclaimer: This channel & podcast is for informational purposes only. It is not made to cure or treat any mental health related issues. I am not a licensed therapist. Always talk to your health care provider first.