EP 21: Why You Still Feel Anxious in a Healthy Relationship

Today on the podcast, I’m joined by Sarah Yudkin, founder of You Love and You Learn.Sarah is a relationship coach and breathwork facilitator who helps people connect more deeply to themselves and others, so they can feel more fulfilled in their lives and relationships. Her work focuses on helping people move from anxiety and self-doubt into greater inner confidence, self-trust and emotional steadiness.⁠⁠⁠DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE 16-MINUTE GUIDED BREATHWORK AUDIO HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Where to Find Sarah Yudkin:Instagram: @youloveandyoulearnWebsite: ⁠www.youloveandyoulearn.comConnect with Fini Cooper:Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@thebreathway ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠& ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@emerge.podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠thebreathway.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠In this episode, we explore relationship anxiety, something so many women experience, but often don’t fully understand or know how to manage.Sarah shares her own personal experience of relationship anxiety, including how it showed up in her relationship with her now-husband, and the moment she realised that the fear she was feeling might not actually be about him, but about the pressure, perfectionism and self-doubt she was carrying.We talk about the difference between intuition and anxiety, why advice like “trust your gut” can feel confusing when you’re already anxious, and how relationship anxiety can make even a loving, healthy partnership feel uncertain or unsafe.Sarah also shares why the idea of “when you know, you know” can sometimes be unhelpful, especially for people who naturally question, analyse or struggle with self-trust.We also discuss the power of breathwork, how it can help us come back into our bodies, regulate our nervous systems, and connect with what Sarah beautifully calls our “wise self”.This is such a helpful conversation for anyone who has ever found themselves overthinking their relationship, questioning whether their doubts mean something deeper, or wondering how to feel more secure within themselves.In this episode, we cover:What relationship anxiety actually isWhy normal relationship doubts can become overwhelmingThe difference between anxiety and intuitionWhy “trust your gut” can feel confusing for anxious peopleThe myth of “when you know, you know”Sarah’s personal experience of relationship anxietyHow perfectionism and comparison can affect relationshipsWhy social media can make relationship anxiety worseHow self-doubt can show up in loveWhat it means to make relationship decisions from your grounded self, not your triggered selfHow breathwork can help you reconnect with your body and your wise selfSimple ways to manage anxious thoughts and sensations when they arise