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EPISODE · May 15, 2026 · 13 MIN

Ep. 215: The Gay Bit: Cliques, Categories & The Truth About the LGBTQ+ Community

from Everything & Anything...and a bit gay Podcast · host Zach Randes-Friedman

The Gay Bit — Cliques, Categories & The Truth About the LGBTQ+ Community In this week's Gay Bit, Zach gets real about something we all see, experience, and — if we're honest — participate in: the silent rules about who belongs where inside the LGBTQ+ community. From twinks and bears to Grindr exclusion lists to fem-on-fem policing to the obsession with masculinity, Zach holds the mirror up to the community he loves — himself very much included — and asks: are we building the inclusive community we say we want, or are we recreating the same hierarchies we're trying to escape? Plus: the time Zach accidentally landed in Provincetown during Bear Week, his habit of borrowing friends' phones to "call his mom," and why the bears might just be the most welcoming group of all. The Gay Bit drops every Friday on Everything & Anything… and a Bit Gay. Podcast song by SIXFOOT 5: https://www.sixfoot5prod.com Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

We talk a lot about wanting acceptance from the outside world — but what happens when the judgment is coming from inside the community? In this episode of The Gay Bit, Zach gets honest about the labels, the cliques, the Grindr exclusion lists, the fem-on-fem policing, and the unspoken masculine hierarchy that exists in LGBTQ+ spaces. This one's a little messy, a little real, and yeah — you might text your friend after. 🏳️‍🌈 New episodes of The Gay Bit every Friday 🎙️ Part of Everything & Anything… and a Bit Gay 📲 Subscribe, share, and leave a comment!

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