Ep 22 What happens when my kid makes the team and her best friend gets cut?

https://heysammi.com/  how do you help kids stay friends after one makes the team and one gets cut? a mom in seattle wrote to me because the cut list went up with her daughter's name on it and her daughter's best friend's name missing, and the friendship has been cracking ever since. in this episode i explain what's actually happening between the two girls: they're both grieving. one lost the team, and the other won something that cost her someone. i cover the survivor's guilt nobody names for kids, why the cut friend pulls away as self-protection rather than cruelty, and the sentence your daughter needs to hear more than once: you're allowed to be happy and your friend is allowed to be sad, at the same time. i also flag the thing to watch for at home, a girl learning to shrink her own success so other people hurt less, and why you can't let this be the first invitation she accepts. then the playbook: small non-sport invites with no scoreboard attached, why a no isn't rejection, the one text to send the other mom, and why avoiding her at pickup reads as pity. friendships that were real usually survive a season apart. this episode is about leaving the light on. got a question for the show? email me. [email protected]  https://heysammi.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices