Ep. 22: Where Is Your Value? (And the Moment Everything Changed)

Quick question: When was the last time you let yourself be proud of yourself - without the resume, without the proof, without needing someone else to tell you, you did a good job?I have achievements and awards coming out of my ears. And I'm proud of them. But you know what I still catch myself doing? Listing them. Like I'm building a case. Like I need to prove I'm enough.Until recently, something shifted.In this episode, I explore:Where we learn our value (as children - valued for WHAT we do, not WHO we are)The adult pattern this creates (proving yourself constantly, listing achievements, needing external validation)How this connects to the chains - the things that hold you back (Perfection, Should, People-Pleasing - all rooted in "I have to DO to have value")Gabor Maté's insight: "I'm not living in myself. I'm living in other people's minds!"The moment everything changed for me (water-blasting the driveway at my parents' house)The breakthrough: "Nice job. I'm proud of that." - and catching myself before calling for validationWhat true self-satisfaction feels like (from the inside, not needing external approval)Where your value ACTUALLY is (not in achievements, but inherent - you beat 400 trillion to 1 odds just to exist)How to shift from external validation to internal satisfactionThe practice: writing yourself a love letter (I share excerpts from mine)The truth: Your value is from the inside. You don't have to prove it. You just have to come home to it.Duration: ~10 minutesThe invitation: Write yourself a love letter. Tell yourself what you need to hear. Then LIVE from that place - BE true to who you are, DO work that works for you, LOVE living your life.Resources: You-phoria: The Art of Authenticity by Gina Haines