Ep 220: The funny things we do to feel safe: On control, self-criticism and wanting to belong.

Today on SelfKind with Erica Webb (that's me!), I'm responding to a topic request from a listener; one that I think is very relatable. Self-criticism, self-doubt, unkind and unhelpful thoughts ... why do we, at times, resort to this when we're worried about being criticised by others? Why do we ultimately try to beat them to it; harming ourselves before they can harm us?In this episode you'll hear some of my thoughts around this, including the questions you can explore to more deeply understand yourself (while fostering self-compassion and curiosity).You'll hear: Why the drive for certainty, safety, and control can lead us to behave and react in ways we may not predict or expectWhy tuning into the body can help us decode otherwise confusing thoughtsThe role of values in helping us shift patterns of behaviour that no longer alignThe vital role of curiosityWhy getting more deeply invested in your humanity is more helpful than trying to 'fix' yourself.The content I share on this platform is for informational and educational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. While I am a qualified counsellor, yoga teacher, and somatic coach, the information provided here does not constitute personal counselling, therapy, or a therapeutic relationship.If you're struggling with your mental health or need personalised support, I encourage you to reach out to a registered professional in your area.Always take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and prioritise your wellbeing.