Ep. 221: The Gay Bit: Take 7 (Chosen Family)

Chosen Family | The Gay Bit Zach opens with a rabbit hole of coming-out videos — and the way they split almost perfectly between parents who said "we love you no matter what" and parents who said "get out." That contrast sent him somewhere deeper: a meditation on chosen family, the strange art of disappearing in rooms where you can't be fully yourself, and the people who have quietly held him together for decades. In this episode: • What those coming-out videos stirred up — joy, heartbreak, and a lot of gratitude • The slow, quiet disappearing act so many LGBTQ+ people learn growing up — adjusting your laugh, your walk, your reaction to things — just to stay safe • His own story: a dad who went silent for six months, a mom who grieved a life she'd imagined, and how both came around • Andrew's grandfather, in his 90s, who loved them both without reservation • His friend Gary — whose grandmother tore a family apart — and who has since vanished entirely • His friend David, who came out at 52 to his wife, kids, and in-laws, and found the courage to start over • What South Beach in the 90s felt like: a whole island where you didn't have to perform • The friends who are his anchors — Jennifer, Mandy, Tony, Gina, Matt — people he could call at 3am with nothing and they'd show up • Getting honest about fear: aging parents, the possibility of illness, the safety net getting smaller • Why chosen family isn't about replacing your biological family — it's about finding people who show up because they want to Zach's takeaway: Be your authentic self. The right people don't need a curated version of you — they just need the real one.  📬 Leave a rating or review on your podcast platform — it helps the show reach more people.  🎙️ Everything & Anything…and a Bit Gay drops new episodes weekly.  📰 Catch Zach's daily LGBTQ+ news podcast, Listen Up Girl, wherever you listen.  🌐 everythingandanythingpodcast.com Podcast song by SIXFOOT 5: https://www.sixfoot5prod.com Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.