(Ep. 23) Forgiveness and the Compassion Method

What if you've forgiven someone a hundred times — and it still hasn't set you free?In this episode of Triggered & True, Laura Duncan and co-host Brian Freise take on forgiveness, and why the way most of us were taught to forgive doesn't actually work. We know forgiveness matters — our faith teaches it, our parents demanded it, and unforgiveness really is like drinking poison and hoping the other person gets sick. But if you've ever forgiven someone over and over and still felt the wound reopen every time you're triggered, this conversation explains why: you can't skip from naming the pain straight to letting it go.Laura describes the missing middle step as a "waiting room" between recognizing your pain and releasing it — and that waiting room is comfort. Until you care for the wound underneath, you'll keep repeating forgiveness as a ritual. She and Brian walk through why you can't heal pain without going back to feel it, why healing only reaches as deep as you let yourself feel, and Laura's "mile 13" marathon metaphor for pushing through the moment every instinct says run. And there's genuine hope in how it ends: many people never even notice the moment they forgave — they just filled their cup little by little until, one day, the person's name came up and they were finally okay.In this episode: 🔹 Why traditional, rushed forgiveness fails — and keeps you forgiving the same wound forever 🔹 The "waiting room" of comfort: the missing step between naming pain and letting it go 🔹 Why healing only goes as deep as you're willing to feel the pain — and why that's okay 🔹 The "mile 13" moment: pushing through the point where everything in you wants to run 🔹 How forgiveness often arrives quietly — filling your cup little by little until you've let goA gentle note: this episode focuses on emotional wounds, not situations of physical or sexual abuse. If you're in harm's way, Laura is clear she's not suggesting you return to it — your safety comes first, and the pain can still be tender from a distance.📩 Get your free Weekly Dose of Compassion — two short notes in your inbox every week. One to speak over yourself. One from Laura: https://www.lauraduncan.com/pl/2148814868🔗 Learn more: https://triggeredandtrue.comhttps://lauraduncan.com