Ep 23 I yelled at a referee and my kid saw. how do i fix it?

https://heysammi.com/  what should a parent do after losing their temper at a youth sports game? a dad in cincinnati wrote to me after screaming at a referee while his daughter watched. she hasn't mentioned it, but something between them shifted, and he can feel it. in this episode i explain what she actually saw, which wasn't a bad call. it was the safest adult in her life losing control in public, in her place, in front of her people. then i get into the good news: kids don't need parents who never break, they need parents who repair. i give the anatomy of a clean apology, short, no excuses, and absolutely no but-that-call-was-terrible, because the word but deletes everything in front of it. i also cover what not to do afterward, like asking if you're okay now or circling back all week, which quietly turns your apology into your kid's job. finally, the part that actually convinces her: the next three games. a real plan, told to her in advance, and three quiet saturdays in a row. evidence beats promises. because she'll have referees her whole life, bad bosses, unfair calls, and this week you get to show her what a do-over looks like. the ones who repair raise kids who repair. got a question for the show? email me. [email protected]  https://heysammi.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices