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EPISODE · May 20, 2026 · 59 MIN

Ep 238: Debra Fileta: The Skill Many Christians Are Missing

from Hey! It's The Luskos

Licensed counselor and author Debra Fileta is back for her third appearance, and this one hits different — she's here to talk about the skill we're all convinced we already have. Levi and Jennie dig into Debra's new book People Skills, unpacking why our tech-saturated world is quietly eroding our ability to connect, why most of us privately think this book is for someone else (spoiler: it isn't), and how communication styles — passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, and assertive — show up in something as simple as a wrong order at a restaurant. Plus: Debra shares the moment God changed her perspective on public speaking anxiety, Jennie confesses she's a chameleon in social situations, and Levi admits cocktail parties are somehow scarier than 10,000-person crowds. Connect with us on social! Debra: @debrafileta Levi: @levilusko Jennie: @jennielusko Fresh Life Church: @freshlife [Links] Get Debra's book People Skills: https://bit.ly/4fco6Vl Get the 5 Gallon Bucket: https://bit.ly/sdl4sHY Get the Lusketeer Sticker: https://bit.ly/sdl4sHY Subscribe for more exclusive content: https://levilusko.com/hitl-subscribe Time Stamps: 00:07:46 – Introducing People Skills — and Jennie's very tabbed-up copy  00:08:26 – Why we're losing the art of real human interaction  00:18:44 – The room full of strangers exercise: how do YOU show up?  00:25:45 – Stop focusing on what they give you, focus on what you can give  00:49:10 – Passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, assertive

Licensed counselor and author Debra Fileta is back for her third appearance, and this one hits different — she's here to talk about the skill we're all convinced we already have. Levi and Jennie dig into Debra's new book People Skills, unpacking why our tech-saturated world is quietly eroding our ability to connect, why most of us privately think this book is for someone else (spoiler: it isn't), and how communication styles — passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, and assertive — show up in something as simple as a wrong order at a restaurant. Plus: Debra shares the moment God changed her perspective on public speaking anxiety, Jennie confesses she's a chameleon in social situations, and Levi admits cocktail parties are somehow scarier than 10,000-person crowds. Connect with us on social! Debra: @debrafileta Levi: @levilusko Jennie: @jennielusko Fresh Life Church: @freshlife [Links] Get Debra's book People Skills: https://bit.ly/4fco6Vl Get the 5 Gallon Bucket: https://bit.ly/sdl4sHY Get the Lusketeer Sticker: https://bit.ly/sdl4sHY Subscribe for more exclusive content: https://levilusko.com/hitl-subscribe Time Stamps: 00:07:46 – Introducing People Skills — and Jennie's very tabbed-up copy 00:08:26 – Why we're losing the art of real human interaction 00:18:44 – The room full of strangers exercise: how do YOU show up? 00:25:45 – Stop focusing on what they give you, focus on what you can give 00:49:10 – Passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, assertive

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