EP 241: Why Anger is a Gift with Keira

This is a call about how to heal anger and discover the passion and creativity that lie underneath. Today's caller, Keira, feels she got the short end of the stick in life. She has done a lot of personal growth work and introspection but she is still angry and sad and wants guidance on how to find her way through her feelings. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode241] As children or adolescents, we make unconscious vows of 'I will never be like mom,' or 'I'll never be like dad,' or 'I will never be like that person who teased me,' but just making that vow or that promise is not enough. If you don't heal the wounds that perpetuated making that vow, either you become like them or you go so far in the opposite direction that it becomes a shadow side. If we're angry all the time or angry at the world it breeds a deep sense of low self-worth. People who are angry generally have low self-worth because unprocessed anger creates an intense sense of separation. Which is another reason I'm so passionate about helping people process anger in a healthy way. Anger misdirected is dangerous but anger directed in a healthy way can be deeply healing. Underneath that anger is where we often find our passion and our purpose. If you feel shut down or you don't know what your purpose is or what you are supposed to do, do anger release work to see what is underneath your anger. You will become a clearer channel for ideas and innovation.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you ever feel like life just doesn't work out for you to matter how hard you try? Do you feel angry and/or sad and no matter how much personal development work you do? When it comes to emotions in your home growing up what did you observe? Have you been told you're too emotional or too reactive or too irrational or *fill in the blank* and you're questioning whether or not it is true? Keira's Question: Keira would like guidance on how to let go of her anger so she can enjoy life. Keira's Key Insights and Ahas: She is emotionally addicted to being angry. She judges herself for not being able to change. She wants to enjoy life. Her father let her down. She judges her mother for not being strong for her. She feels her older brother let her down. She gets triggered easily. She believes her soul is a passionate one. She is yearning to uncover her creativity. How to Get Over It and On With It: She needs to be grateful for how her anger has served her. She needs to learn how to channel and use her anger. She needs to join my Personal Mastery course and read Expectation Hangover. She needs to dive deeper into her wounding to free herself of it. She needs to share her feelings with her mother by writing letters she doesn't intend to send. Takeaways: Get an excerpt of the temper tantrum technique from my book, Expectation Hangover as a free gift at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease. Join Stef and me twice per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall. Find your voice during this time, whatever that means to you. Don't be too passive or too reactive. Find your middle ground. Channel your feelings into writing, speaking, dancing, cooking, creating; something non-result-based that is just fun. Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code 'HEALTH' at checkout and take advantage of the monthly payment plan. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.