EPISODE · Jun 19, 2026 · 26 MIN
Ep. 245: Coming Out at 52, Mean Gays, and Why I'm Done Reading Comments
from Everything & Anything...and a bit gay Podcast · host Zach Randes-Friedman
Episode Notes: David's coming-out episode remains one of the most talked-about on the show — and it's still changing lives. David came out to his family at 52 and hasn't looked back. Sherry, one of Andrew's lifelong friends from Long Island, calls herself "the queen of gays" and is fully here for David living his truth. So is Kim. The whole crew showed up for him. David is now dating someone with deep roots in Boston's gay social scene, which has opened up a whole new world for him — but it also highlighted something real: when you come out later in life, you missed decades of gay bar culture, queer friendships, and community, and navigating that for the first time at 52 is its own experience. Zach's Club Cafe history is legendary. The $250 Uber ride home after one particularly chaotic night — including a very unfortunate moment on Route 90 West — is a tale for the ages. The throuple breakup outside the bar, and the guy's absolute audacity to seek comfort from Zach minutes after being cold to him inside, is a masterclass in what not to do. Zach's podcast advisor gave him a note this week: stop reading comments. Stop clapping back in public. The show is growing, people are recognizing him, and one clip out of context can become a whole thing. Zach is working on it. He will, however, always step in when someone posts something harmful about a guest from a marginalized community. That line doesn't move. Provincetown update: Crown & Anchor has been sold and redone. Governor Bradford's situation is still evolving. Lots of change happening in P-Town. Zach is going in August for a short stay and is now actually excited about it. If you've never been to Provincetown and you're part of the LGBTQ+ community — go. Budget accordingly. Tea dance alone is worth it The Gay Bit drops every Friday on Everything & Anything…and a Bit Gay. New guest episode Sunday. Podcast song by SIXFOOT 5: https://www.sixfoot5prod.com Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/sixfoot-5/1551774977 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5rHMzoU0G0fLhaBsrQiOOY?si=laSZ5hiKTYubJJyhrzf2JQ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
What this episode covers
It's The Gay Bit — Episode 11 — and Zach is back with his Friday solo show, where all the gayness your week was missing finally gets its moment. This week, Zach catches up with his friend David — who came out at 52 to his wife, three sons, and his entire family — and reflects on how the episode they recorded together has resonated far beyond what either of them expected. People are sliding into David's DMs with their own stories, their own fears, and their own coming-out timelines. And that, Zach says, is exactly what this podcast is for. But that's just the warm-up. Zach takes you along for a night out in Boston that ends up at Club Cafe forty minutes before last call — and things get interesting. There are groping twinks, a man from a throuple who definitely got broken up with that night, a mysterious personality transplant between two bars, and a lost $700 necklace from a previous night out that will haunt Zach forever. It's a lot. In the middle of all of it, Zach's podcast advisor drops some real talk: when people start recognizing you in bars because of your show, you have to be more careful. Zach's wrestling with that — because he's never been someone who lets things slide, and he's not sure he wants to start now. He's trying. He's really trying. The episode wraps with Zach sharing that he IS going to Provincetown this August (plot twist: he wasn't going to), a reality check on how expensive P-Town actually is, and news that Crown & Anchor and Governor Bradford's are both going through major changes.
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Ep. 245: Coming Out at 52, Mean Gays, and Why I'm Done Reading Comments
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