EP 245: Stop Trying to Prove Yourself with Britney

This is a call about knowing that you matter without constantly proving yourself. Today's caller, Britney, is putting a lot of pressure on herself. She wants guidance on building her career but until she heals her inner child she will keep running into roadblocks. If you are career-driven you may relate to this.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode245]   What we all need the most is for someone to really see us and understand us.   If we are addicted to anything, be it success or alcohol, it is an attempt to cure pain or heal a wound. Any addiction is an attempt to numb something. We can be addicted to success or making something out of ourselves but that is not the purpose of our life. The purpose of the human experience is to come to the awareness that we are whole, complete, and loved no matter what we do. And, we are someone no matter what we do. We are one with everyone. That is why we are here.   When we do inner child work and we do the work of the spirit we realize there is nothing external that solves our internal tasks. There is nothing external that completes us. Inner child work can lead us to more aligned and greater success because we're not hitting as many roadblocks.   I don't want you to think that accepting ourselves and loving ourselves makes us complacent. Accepting and loving ourselves provides us with inspiration and success because it comes from a more aligned place.   Tap into your inner knowing and intuition with this gift from me. It offers help with intuitive decision making and how to navigate the unknown with 6 Steps to Bypass Your Practical Mind. Text 'Christine' to 444999.   Take a deep dive into how to heal your inner child in our 3-day virtual Inner Child workshop on June 5th-7th. Stefanos and I will hold space for both the healthy masculine and feminine. If you can't join us live it will be recorded. Take advantage of the early bird discount if you sign up by May 25th at ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you are not living into your purpose or potential or like you should be doing more? Did you have parents that were very success-oriented and expected a lot from you? As a child, did you have a passion for something artistic or outside of the conventional box or what your parents maybe wanted you to do but you were discouraged from pursuing it because you were told you could never make money at it? Do you feel blocked in the area of your life and it seems like no matter what you do you just can't shift it?   Britney's Question: Britney would like to know more about stepping into her purpose.   Britney's Key Insights and Ahas: She disassociates and has self-worth issues. She feels she is a strong hustler but is tired of it. She is having trouble taking her career to the next level. She feels she is not where she is supposed to be. She pushes away love because she feels she doesn't deserve it. She was told she wouldn't succeed in the arts. She craved support and validation from her parents. She feels like she doesn't matter and has to prove herself. Her parents believe the way out of suffering is money and success. She is breaking a generational pattern. She wants to play more. She consistently looks for something external to heal internally.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Learn to release the expectations she puts on herself. Perform the Empty Chair Process. Look inside herself and not to external sources for healing.   Takeaways:  Join us for the virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild and get a $100 early bird discount if you register before May 25th. Write a letter to that little boy or little girl inside of you about how worthy they are, what you love about them, and start validating yourself, not for what you do but for who you are. If you are carrying anger or resentment write a couple a few letters that you never mail. Stop hustling and do the internal work. Tap more into your intuition and inner child.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.