Ep 248 - Too Much or Never Enough (Pt. 1): The Shame We Carry Into Relationships

Send us Fan MailEpisode 248, Part One brings a deeply honest and tender conversation with host Andrea Atherton and guest Hanna Basel, exploring the all-too-familiar feelings of being “not enough” or “too much” in our intimate relationships. Together, they open a compassionate space to unpack how these internal narratives shape the way we show up in love, how and we hold back, overextend, or question our worth in partnership. This episode invites listeners to recognize that these feelings are not flaws, but learned patterns rooted in something much deeper.Andrea and Hana gently guide the conversation into the origins of these beliefs, tracing them back to childhood experiences and the messages we received, spoken and unspoken, from caregivers. Whether it was feeling unseen, criticized, or responsible for others’ emotions, these early imprints often form the foundation of how we relate to love as adults. The episode explores how these wounds evolve into shame, self-doubt, and the quiet fear of being fully known, leaving many caught between the desire for connection and the instinct to protect themselves.This conversation offers both insight and emotional resonance, helping listeners understand how these patterns play out in real-time within their relationships. From fear of vulnerability to the push-pull of intimacy, Andrea and Hanna illuminate the ways we unconsciously guard ourselves from being truly seen. Episode 248 becomes an invitation to move beyond shame and into self-compassion, reminding listeners that healing begins when we feel safe enough to show up as we are, without editing or hiding the parts of ourselves we’ve been taught are “too much” or “not enough.”And stay tuned for Part Two—next week, Andrea and Hanna will return to offer practical tools and therapeutic exercises, helping you not just name these patterns but actively shift them, so you can step into love with more self-efficacy and curiosity.Hanna Baselhttps://www.facebook.com/TherapywithhannaB/https://www.instagram.com/therapywithhannabhttps://www.tiktok.com/@therapywithhannabhttps://www.hzbtherapy.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/hzbtherapy/https://bit.ly/m/TherapywithHannaB30-minute Consultation with Andrea https://www.andreaatherton.com/booking-calendarAndrea Atherton  Websitehttps://www.andreaatherton.com/Love Anarchy Websitehttps://www.andreaatherton.com/podcasthttps://loveanarchypodcast.buzzsprout.comLove Anarchy Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/loveanarchypodcast/Andrea Atherton Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/andreaatherton-17/