Ep 257: Shedding Shame: Rules and self-care beyond the good and bad

Welcome to this episode of Self Kind with me, Erica Webb. Today I’m sharing some personal stories around the impact of rules-driven thinking on self-care. I’m tying this topic into last week’s episode with guest Sam Sellers, who joined us to talk about religious trauma. I’m sharing:- my own experiences of guilt and shame that stemmed, at least in part, from my early experiences with religion and fear (and why I left that world in my early 20s)- why I was nick-named the Fun Police in high school- the value that lay in moving beyond the black-and-white thinking of good and bad, especially in terms of self-care practices- the role of values in navigating outside of rule-based thinking.Mentioned in this episode:SelfKind with Erica Webb Ep 256: Religious trauma with Sam Sellers: https://www.ericawebbyoga.com.au/podcast/episode/7bd670d7/ep-256-religious-trauma-with-sam-sellersCounselling with Erica: https://www.ericawebb.com.au/work-with-meTime Stamps:00:00 Welcome to Self Kind with Erica Webb00:05 Exploring the Impact of Rules-Driven Thinking on Self-Care00:43 Personal Journey: From Religious Trauma to Self-Compassion04:44 The Lingering Effects of Religious Upbringing13:34 Breaking Up with Religion and Embracing Self-Care16:24 The Pseudo Safety of Rules and the Power of Values24:35 Reflections and Closing ThoughtsThe content I share on this platform is for informational and educational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. While I am a qualified counsellor, yoga teacher, and somatic coach, the information provided here does not constitute personal counselling, therapy, or a therapeutic relationship.If you're struggling with your mental health or need personalised support, I encourage you to reach out to a registered professional in your area.Always take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and prioritise your wellbeing.